Tweet I believe the growing preference for texting has a lot to do with its impersonal nature. That would make things easier I suppose, but it also creates new problems. A large part of communication is non-verbal. When texting, the other party cannot receive those fine nuances of communication such as tone of voice, held back giggles, excited breathing, or body language that demonstrates anxiety , happiness or growing irritation. Texting it seems, is here to stay, but there needs to be some rules in place.
After listening to dozens of complaints from friends, coworkers, and family about their relationships and texting, I came up with "10 Texting Rules For Dating Singles. On your way but missed your train? Texting to update your date on your revised arrival time is a considerate thing to do.
Receiving a texted shopping list can be a life and relationship saver! Had a great first date? Texting the day after to say, "Wow, I had a really great time with you!
Texting while in a face-to-face conversation is just as rude as blabbing away on a call. That includes your best friend trying to sneakily find out how things are going, the Masters of Electronically Transmitted Whining the kids , or an angry ex who saw you and your date in the restaurant parking lot.
Manners and courtesy must reign supreme. Texting is only for transmitting unimportant information or short and simple messages, not an in-depth conversation. Middle aged fingers and hands cramp easily, okay!? Oh, and if you notice that you are having most of your relationship via texting, you need to move things along to the face to face level or just end it. Do not send text after text describing your every move, every conversation, or every thought.
The fact that your coworker was late for the 10th time this month is of no importance to anyone but you. Are people these days crazy? What in the world is going on with this "sexting" stuff?
Why would females send pictures of naked body parts including their genitalia over cell phones? Women are likely to be humiliated to discover that they are the brunt of jokes, as guys will often share the sexy texts they get from random women with their buddies and have a good laugh. What types of things have I heard you ask?
Sexual invitations to people known to have no interest, fights from months ago renewed with vigor due to unresolved anger, personal questions asked and personal information volunteered in a straight bonehead move. People over the age of 25 usually have full-time jobs, families, and things to do that involve their hands, including cooking , typing, and driving.
One should also remember that technology is great, but not perfect. What may be meant as humorous sarcasm, or a completely innocuous message to you may be easily misinterpreted by the recipient of your text. Such miscommunication can cause hurt feelings and unnecessary tension, and require an unbelievable amount of apologizing and explaining to fix. In some instances it will cost you the relationship. Watch the shorthand and acronyms as well.
Texting to set-up a date is bogus! Have the courage to speak up and risk rejection like a big boy or girl. But one of the top qualities singles seek is a confident partner that goes after what he or she wants. Confident, secure people have an air about them that is very sexy… passive, hesitant, insecure people do not.
Use of any form of informal, emotionally disconnected electronic communication to dump someone is chickenshit. Text messaging isn't necessarily a tool of the devil, but there can be quite a bit of misinterpretation and miscommunication if not used correctly.
Texting is a great way to stay connected to someone you are madly in love with, and a useful tool to touch base with casual or new dating partners. However, texting is not and never will be a replacement for a heart-felt telephone conversation full of sighs and laughter. Deborrah has written dozens of articles on dating and relationships, and served as the resident advice columnist on AskHeartBeat!
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