Source Advertising [x] You could say that a boy is clingy and suffocating. Or does he happily let you go have fun with your girls and plan his own thing? A man understands that creating a bit of space between him and his partner so they can maintain their separate identities is extremely healthy and important for their relationship.
A boy can see this space as threating, thus making him insecure, reactive, and jealous when his girlfriend wants to maintain some element of freedom and independence within the relationship.
Most importantly, a man wants this freedom and independence himself within the relationship, which creates a much healthier dynamic of two full people coming together to be even stronger as a unit.
A boy tries to grapple with this insecurity by not allowing you to have your freedom — for example: Men, generally speaking, have worked hard to produce their own things that give them confidence and allow them to feel secure in who they are, so they are nothing but supportive to a woman who is creating big things for herself. Or can he allow you to sometimes have a starring role and stand back, clapping for your successes?
So, is your guy seemingly stagnant, just wading around and not looking to improve his life, his career, or trying to eradicate and improve negative habits? In particular, emotional conflict.
A man is not afraid to have the hard conversations and deal with the tough emotions in a relationship, because he knows those conversations are what allow you to become closer as a couple, and both find freedom within the relationship.
Of course there are passive men out there. Not every guy is naturally assertive, decisive, and comfortable being the one leading his lady. Not only in a relationship, but becoming more assertive and action-oriented allows you to obtain the things you desire in life much easier, because you actually have the confidence in yourself to to go after them, unapologetically.
You want to be with a man who is going to be able to make decisions, take actions, and be assertive in his life, not just for your union as a couple, but for himself as well. A man knows who he is and allows that to shine in your relationship. A boy can often be struggling to find his personal identity as a man, which carries over to him not knowing what role to play within your relationship.
A boy will likely struggle to take his ego down for long enough to admit his mistakes and failures. But a man has the wherewithal and intelligence to objectively look at himself and admit to his wrong doings. Advertising [x] Give TheTalko a Thumbs up!