That, and I was still terrified to talk to boys anywho. I never wavered on this decision my freshman and sophomore years of high school. Well, I was crushing hard on someone and could not remember why on earth I committed to no dating in high school. That winter, my youth group had a lock-in and one of my really close friends who was 2 years older than me and so had already graduated high school came to help out.
I had previously talked to her about my crush and my decision not to date in high school. Around 3 AM, I asked her if we could chat. She and I then grabbed a piece of paper and brainstormed all the pros and cons of dating in high school.
Practice When you date in high school, you learn how to date. You learn what you like about guys and what you want dating to look like.
I would be practicing how to date, thus when I got older dating will more likely be easier. Shoulder to Lean On A boyfriend can be a great shoulder to lean on, which is a great pro to dating in general.
The Cons for Dating in High School 1. Too Deep Too Fast My friend told me that she and her ex-boyfriend had gotten too deep too fast when they were dating. I learned that one could get too deep emotionally and not just physically.
I also took several AP classes, so schoolwork took up a bunch of my time too. Realistically, I knew I could make a relationship work despite my busyness, but it would be hard.
Especially considering how the guy I liked was super busy too. So dating in high school meant it would be a really long time before he and I could get married. I knew that having a boyfriend would make me feel less lonely, but I knew that loneliness was a lie.
I had friends and family around me who I could hang out with. Additionally, I believed Jesus was right by my side every inch of the way, so I had no cause to turn to a boyfriend to stop my loneliness.
Free to Pour Self Out My friend pointed out that now that she was single again, she felt freer to reach out to other girls around her and grow in friendships. She had more time to serve with her church than she did when she was dating. So what did I decide? My resolve was strengthened. In fact, it was four years after my friend and I created the above list before a guy asked me out.
Do I regret not dating in high school? Now that Caleb and I are dating, I do kinda wish I had some sort of experience in dating to fall back on. But I do wish I had some sort of experience to help me out. I had time to serve my church and hang out with my friends whenever I wanted. If you would like to download a free copy of this list with room to add your own pros and cons, you can access that via the freebies page.
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