The most troubling issue for me is the slanted press and stereotypes Black men endure, resulting in them carrying a skewed reputation of being violent, lazy criminals everywhere they go. I personally have a number of Black male family members and friends who have never been to jail, have college degrees, and are good fathers.
They are not always afforded fair and balanced romantic and interpersonal relationships because of the constant projection of negative images of their bodies and personalities. If you consider yourself naturally attracted to African-American men or would like to know more about dating them, here are a few things to consider before your pursue a relationship. Are you physically attracted to the Black man's physique and skin tone? If you are, you may be leading your romantic pursuits with your libido.
Black men as anyone else deserve better than that. Going to the club to check hot Black guys out like they are in a meat market is just as degrading as men objectifying women.
Black men are not just super-sexy, they are human beings and deserve all of you, not just your sexual side. Smile, be kind, and show your natural personality. You don't have to come on strong to get to know a man. It is wise to learn about the history and the current social and racial climate of America before you haul off and say something super-offensive to a Black man in conversation.
You also shouldn't feel pressured for forced to talk about race in America with a Black male potential partner, because that could be a turn-off, too. Just be aware of what's going on so that if any situations arise while you're together, you can approach his experience with some understanding.
Don't Accept Disrespect And Misogyny If you do decide to be with a man who considers himself a "thug," treat him as an individual, but consider his behavior and words towards you.
If he's kind to you, great, but if you get any sense that you're being spoken to in a belittling manner, are called out of your name, or expected to act and make love in certain ways that make you uncomfortable, walk away. Be Financially Independent Black men tend to receive a lot of messages from the media and the world that women want them for sex and money. Have something to say that's not on a script he's expecting.
There are plenty of kind, generous, affectionate, patient Black men in America. Know yourself and what you want in a human being. Dating an African-American man doesn't mean you have to lower your standards and be someone you're not.
Wait for the right Black man who makes you happy. Open up a little bit. You can befriend and admire Black men for your entire life. You can be close to, spend time with, and enjoy the company of your Black male friends, but there may be a chance that the best person for you may walk right by you simply because you have been using your eyes and not your heart to find the right person. Especially His Mother You should have complete respect for African-American men's families, particularly the matriarchs.
Picking a fight, being inflexible, and causing drama at a family gathering will earn you quick excommunication. If He Has One, Respect His Baby's Mother At the end of the day, unless it's under certain extenuating circumstances, he's always going to take his child's mother's side. Creating a rift with her keeps him from his child. If you deny or insult his child, he will leave you. If you insult and can't along with the mother of the child, he will NOT trust you or respect you.
Class Always Wins No matter what color he is, if he's a good man, he wants to be with a good woman. If you can't go a couple of days without complaining or criticizing your partner with anger and disdain, HE deserves better. Why get with a man you don't get along with? Relationships should have more positives than negatives.
Be kind to yourself and your man. If you have a problem with the way your man is acting, don't run to your girlfriends or mother. Black men are not unreasonable.
If you're in a relationship with an adult, you should be able to have a constructive conversation if you're expressing your concerns in a respectful manner. If you like this article, please share it!
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