Posted by Joanna on April 24, Me and this guy have been talking for a few weeks now. And it's getting pretty serious, but the problem is, is that he's my best friends older brother. All my other friends know about us except her. Should I tell her?
Or is the whole thing wrong and I should just end it all? Just keep in mind that this sounds like an affair. The thrill of an affair is that it is fun. But once someone finds out, the fun of it goes away and people get hurt. On the other hand should it be that he is sincere, really does want to get serious, and likes the idea of openly discussing it with his sister, it might make things even better. One day she may become your sister-in-law. Who knows how serious it could get?
Or the two of you can become even closer, but keep in mind that you need to set boundaries. Keep that shizzle to yourself!!!! And definitely start slow with the displays of affection in front of her. Remember a slow, easy approach is best.
Find a good time, like over dinner, or coffee, or whatever it is you kids do these days. Make sure you have her full undivided attention, and be very straight forward about how you feel.
If you sugar coat it, she might not get the message. You need to be honest, and willing to accept the fact that she might just reject the idea right after you tell her. Be prepared for hurt feelings, and the possibility that she may no longer want to be close friends. This is just the reality of it all. And sometimes these situations they are worth the risk.
Just follow the advice of having the talk with the brother first, and then see how it goes from there.