The results, published in the American Journal of Sociology , also discovered a clear racial hierarchy is present in the response process. The only group that responds regularly to black men and women are one another. She's only ever dated white men. She thinks it's partly because her aunties used to tell her how "rubbish" black men were and told her to "make better choices". Rudo says itis not racist to be attracted to one race over another, it's just a preference.
Despite big language barriers, the two hit it off. Han had only dated Korean women in the past and thought dating a white woman was "a fantasy". Sophie found Asian men attractive but says it was shared values that was most important.
After three months of chatting online, John proposed to Edelisa — before they'd met in person. John specifically sought out an Asian woman for a partner because "Asian women treat western men better than a white woman might". Edelisa thought a western man would be "better than a Filipino husband" because they're more responsible and provide better for their children.
Despite growing up and going to school with mostly white people, Ida has never dated someone from a different racial background. He says one of his company's popular events is ' Asian women speed dating ', where all the women have an Asian background and the men are from any race.
He says there's been no demand for a speed dating night featuring only Asian men. He says race is just one element that people have on the list of things they're looking for in a prospective partner. Jennifer Lundquist Jennifer Lundquist is a US-based sociologist who has studied racial preferences in online dating. The study found that race plays a big part in people's decisions about who they choose to contact and respond to online.
It found that heterosexual men of all races respond to all women except for African-American, and that women of all races respond first to Caucasian men. He says "multi-ethnic coupling" will become increasingly more common as time goes by — it's an inevitable consequence of the proximity of so many races in the same place.
He also says there are evolutionary reasons why people of mixed-race would be seen as the most attractive. Welcome everyone, good to have you with us tonight. Rudo, let me start with you, you have Southern African heritage, what kinds of guys are you attracted to? I'm attracted to Caucasian men. I really don't have a rational explanation as to why, I just am.
I've certainly been on dates with people of different races but I've just found that I had a better connection with people of Caucasian heritage.
What appeals to you about them? I think I like the contrast, the difference in skin tone, the ebony and the ivory, I quite like contrast. Got to a laugh, yeah. And yeah, I just. So is it purely physical or is it a mixture of a whole lot of things? It's a mixture of a whole lot of things, it's not just physical and it's not just sexual.
I think personality wise as well, certain interests and things - I just tend to find that I connect better with Caucasian men. Now you're married to a white Australian man? And you've never dated an African man? Okay, Linda, what about you, who do you date?
Would be for darker men, African men predominantly is probably where I'm sort of more drawn to. And what are you drawn to about African men? I'd have to say I like the skin tone too, you know?
But, but to be honest, most of the African men that I have met or got to know, I found them really interesting. There's been be intellectual stimulation from them, the cultural differences. So you like difference?
Cultures, I like different cultures in different backgrounds and it just interests me. Mike, what about you? You have a Croatian, Irish, Scottish background? Who did you prefer to date? I prefer to date black women, so from all around the world, you know, any kind of culture. Would you look at other races or just black women? I have dated, I have dated, you know, white girls, mainly because in my area in Western Australia, you didn't really have that kind of option, especially around in my area around near the coast.
But now that things are changing, demographics are changing around Australia, it's really great to see, you know, that kind of thing happening and more. So when did this attraction start for you, how did it start?
Probably when I was quite young I used to read a lot of books about missionaries and stories of Africa and things like that and it just kind of got me interested. Probably American movies as well, and TV shows. There's one in particular? Okay, it's the Cosby Show. Mainly, mainly for Felicia Ashard, Claire Huxtable. She just sings to, she was just like my genuine class and like everybody else is like Bill Cosby's really funny, but when I watched the TV show, Felicia Ashard really kind of stood out to me and yeah, the other one is Whoopi Goldberg.
Whoopi Goldberg as well, okay, so you saw Whoopi and you thought mmm? In the movie Burglar, everybody, basically we were watching it over at a friend's place and everybody was like man this is the funniest film, you know, we thought it was absolutely fantastic but I thought that she was really attractive.
Okay, I want you to explain to me a little bit more about what it is about black women that you find so attractive, are there qualities that you see that you find, is it physical, is it cultural, what is it? It's kind of a mix of like the whole lot.
You know, there's obvious physical attraction of course. She's married by the way? Just saying, just saying that. I'm too late unfortunately. But yeah, it's just a whole new, just a big mixing of the whole kind of thing. When did it start Mike? When did this attraction start do you think, I mean in terms of you actually dating someone? It was in high school at a high school dance and basically the entire year was basically all mostly white people from like, you know, Perth, but there was one girl from South Africa who had come over, her family had come over so, yeah, went to the dance and, yeah, took her.
So you went to the dance with the one black girl in the school? And that kicked it off? If I had any kind of reservations before I didn't have any after, so.
Sophie Song, you're in South Korea visiting your Korean in-laws at the moment. Your husband Han is here in the studio. What attracted you to Han?
I came to be attracted to him over time. He had quite limited English when we first met but actually he was able to convey his personality and sense of humour really clearly, despite his language limitation, and I came to feel that we had quite similar, I guess, I guess complementing personalities.
Had you dated other Korean men before Han? Okay, so had it been a preference for a long time or did you have a preference, or didn't it matter? I probably have always had more interest in darker haired, darker eyed people, and what I had found, you know, my experience of the Korean people I had met prior to meeting Han was that a lot of them, by their upbringing, are quite family oriented and that was something that very much appealed to me.
So how did you meet? We actually met at a pub, we both had gone with our respective friends and we were watching a football final and basically I met him briefly in the queue at the bar.
He just approached me and said hello, he introduced himself and then actually we parted ways but a little bit later in the night there was a guy at the bar who was quite persistently talking to me that I was trying to find a way out of the conversation and really struggling and it happened that Han walked past and I saw him and recognised his face and I thought well, here goes nothing and I grabbed his hand and I said to the other guy: It's a great start, great start.
Han, when this happened in the bar you didn't speak English, did you, very much? I could speak barely, I could just say hi, how are you, I'm fine thank you and you?
Okay, bye, that was pretty much. Okay, so when you met Sophie how did you feel about her? Was it an instant attraction or not? Yes, like when I saw her and she wasn't, she was wearing like a beautiful dress, it was like vintage dress and I thought wow, she's beautiful.
Maybe I could see her in a movie or something and, but I thought oh well, but I'm Asian, probably she's not interested in Asian guy so I was just, okay, let's just say hi. I won't lose anything, it was just hi and then she was, she said hi back to me, very friendly, which I didn't expect at all.
So you didn't expect to date a white woman? Because I was, I grew up in Korea and in Korea, not many Caucasian people in Korea, even though there are some English teachers, I can't meet them personally so I thought they are very hard people to be with, especially as Asian. So I had a kind of fantasy that I want to date a Caucasian woman. Okay, so had you gone out with any white women before Sophie? I just only dated Korean woman before I met Sophie.
Okay, but you found white women more attractive or just attractive? More attractive of course. It was like a fantasy to me and I thought I can't ever date white woman, I can't ever hold white women's hand or something like that.