Post by Creflo A. Creflo Dollar always speaks so much truth. As a newly single gal who has a history of moving too quickly, this was a good reminder why I need to slow my ass down. Not just slow down. After 5 months we decided that we wanted to take the next step in our lives together and soon thereafter, we were picking out diamond rings and matching wedding bands.
We went from 0 to real quick. I was excited to finally be fulfilling my dreams of becoming a wife and mother. I cared for my man, deeply. But the faster we moved forward, the more I pulled back. It was telling me something. I could not ignore it. I confided in many other couples whom I looked up to. I told them how I was feeling. What more do you want? Your feelings are natural. You are just nervous. This is not nervousness. It was very real and I knew it was not wise to ignore it.
I broke up with him and as hard as it was to leave and as much as I loved him, I loved me more. Suddenly, my ex started following me again on Instagram and reached out to meet up. But all joking aside, I agreed to meet up with him and hear him out. After all, it had been at least a year since we last spoke. I was curious about his well being.
We met at a cute resto downtown. I was greeted with his warm smile. For a moment, I felt special. I felt all kinds of mixed feelings. But only for a moment. We dived into a great conversation. I lit up when hearing about how well his career was going and his plans for personal and professional growth. That was one of the unique qualities that attracted me to begin with. I knew he was not my forever. I made that decision years ago. So my reaction was completely genuine. But behind this smile was a huge what the hell?
So I asked him to repeat it just to be clear. I took another breath, smiled and asked all the who? He was completely upfront and honest. I will keep those details sacred. In those moments I appreciated him even more. After wrapping up our talk. We hugged good-bye and continued on our way.
I have not spoke to him since. The moral of this story is to ask questions. Do you even know him? Excellent book that will help you learn more about your partner and peel back layers upon layers of him. Open your eyes, heart and mind to these important life lessons.