This post is for the guys—the broke guys. You know who you are. You have to actually do something. That was a problem. Not a lot of money. And therein lies the cruel twist: The answer was yes for my 20s and 30s, but decidedly no in my 40s. My experience has been downright embarrassing. For a while, I tried to hide the fact that I was broke. It was always a coffee date. And you can guess my biggest fear as we walked up to the counter: I developed a strategy to overcome this potential money-trap.
By a stroke of luck, I had a coffee shop in my backyard that served french press coffee—for two. Yes, you can fake it for a date. Even people of means sometimes go on coffee dates. The real problem is what you do for date 2…and 3. At some point, you have to transcend coffee. But in all seriousness, being broke definitely caused major difficulties in my last relationship. Honey, can you look on Groupon to see what deals are going on tonight?
You getting the picture? This went on for two years. She was frustrated, and I felt like shit. Money was always a problem. By the way, borrowing money from your girlfriend is a recipe for disaster. You are not defined by the size of your wallet or bank account; you are special like a snowflake. But if you try to date them…judge you, they will!
Let me remind you of something. Someone who adds bountiful love and amazeballs to your life. She deserves to feel like a woman and not always have the pressure that comes with your broke ass always being broke! All you gotta do to get laid is: There are many, many women who, for a variety of reasons, are not interested in a committed relationship. They are open to something physical, something playful.
If you bring bullshit tactics, however, your likelihood of getting laid will diminish quickly. Now, if you want more than just a hook up, leave and get your shit together. Then, come back stronger.
Are you trying to tell me that I can dodge bullets? Why do you allow this? You know in your gut of guts that you deserve better. They will never change with you enabling them! Yes, I know we can be attractive to you. We bring excitement, passion, and novelty!