Their abiding charm is part of their self-imputed supremacy. Somatics are almost always in the latest fashion, driving fancy cars, and acting the celebrity. His mind is the source of his vanity. Cerebral narcissists will try to impress others by their scholarly intelligence and command of the language, which is used not only to impress, but also to destroy anyone who questions them.
They are convinced that they are unique and should only associate with other special or high-status individuals. In fact, when confronted with anything that contradicts their sense of god-like stature, you can bet that their reaction will be explosive and malicious. Contempt is shown for those they deem inferior. Their verbal sharpness is such that one is left staggering in the aftermath. In spite of these injurious traits, such a person can be charming and exhibit behaviors widely admired in society.
The Cerebral Narcissist generally operates in the same way as the somatic or overt Narcissist when it comes to securing a source of supply. However, there are subtleties that set them apart, such as: During the idealization phase: However, the cerebral narcissist goes one step further by exclaiming that the new supply is their intellectual equal. Their pretense is impermeable. Gifts often include poetry, books, and hand-written letters professing their undying love.
As with all Narcissists, this phase is to make you addicted to the constant attention. Once the emotional and chemical cravings set in, thus begins the devaluation phase. The devaluation phase is very similar to other Narcissists, though manifests in a slightly different way.
They begin to throw out occasional morsels in order to keep you in their loop. The discard phase is where everything comes to light. It becomes apparent that the narcissist considers himself a gift to civilization. His intelligent achievements are earth shatteringly paradigm-shifting, forever penetrating and superior. Periodically interacting with objects of conflict sustains his inner turmoil, keeping the narcissist on his toes…this infuses him with euphoric liveliness.
Should you demand more — you will become an encumbrance. He will dump you, disengaging quickly and remorselessly.
During the discard phase, the narcissist reveals his or her authentic self. You experience their callous indifference as the relationship ends. You might think this is only a fleeting lapse, but in reality, this is their true nature which has been hidden under a dark cloak. The scheming charm that existed in the beginning is gone — instead, it is replaced by the genuine contempt that the narcissist felt for you from the beginning. They feel absolutely nothing for you except the excitement of having discarded another unsuspecting target.
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