While they are in a non traditional predicament they often want to bare their hearts and get some advice from someone they think will be sympathetic to their plight, namely another woman who happens to be psychic. Dear smart and beautiful modern woman, choose your female psychic with care.
Not all female psychics would be sympathetic to your cause. Many of them are kind women who lost their husband to "other women" , were often left with little means and unfortunately had to seek out occupations like phone readings to make ends meet.
Well meaning as they are Do you think such a person would be sympathetic to your plight? Such advisors will tell you that dating a married man is always a bad idea and that you will be left with the short end of the stick, the ex wife will always interfere, the kids will never blend and the finances will be terrible.
Not only that they will also scare you by saying that you man might need "space" after his divorce, may cheat and may leave you for fresher pastures.
After all you have been through, do you really need to pay money to listen to such outdated nonsense? If you were born after or thereabouts you would know that statistics have changed worldwide. Every 7 in 10 marriages especially first marriages end in a divorce. That's the reality of life. So what happens to the divorced man?
Does he find his soulmate and live happily ever after? Is his second marriage often better than his first because now he is older, more successful and wiser? So what were the scary tales about This is my theory.
We all make mistakes. Divorces happen when two people are no longer compatible. This is why we have courts and Judges. The husband is not enslaved to the first wife forever.
Once the Judge signs it is legally over. If your lover is a married man or was a married man, do not feel guilty. Since multiple marriages are so common you have to ask yourself this: Do every divorced man get a legal divorce, clear out his mind, date for 2 years, meet the woman of his dreams and marry her?
No it often works out this way: The man meets a compatible woman when his marriage is fast going downhill. He starts a relationship with the woman he met. He falls in love. He finds the strength and moral justification to get a divorce. There is a crossover period when the old relationship fades and the new relationship starts to bloom. This is how most of the divorced men meet their second or third wife. If you met your man while he was going through a crossover period do not fret.
It will get better. He is not using you. He will not leave you if you stand by him. Then comes the dreaded period. Now that he is single will he leave you for fresher pastures? The short answer is no. If he and you emotionally supported one another through his divorce chances are that you two have a very strong camaraderie by now. Use that to strengthen your relationship. Do not fear that he will dump you now that he is free, unless he was a sleaze to begin with.
If you love each other that love will withstand the trial of time and experience. Is he going to be broke after divorce? Will you get the short end of the stick? If the man was smart enough to meet you, win your love, go through the divorce and is a successful man , chances are that he had the smarts to hire a good attorney.
If he makes good money in his profession it is likely that he has some brains. If he has some brains it is likely that he wont get screwed over in the divorce. Judges have become stricter these days to not hand over huge alimonies and child supports to the ex. Women have as much opportunity in the work field as men. Their money earning capacity is not that much inferior to men. Nearly all states are community property states now, with no fault divorces, which means sexual infidelity cannot be a factor towards splitting money.
Also child support is calculated according to need of the child, the parents split the costs based on the ratio of income generating capacity. So it wont be like the ex wife will be sitting on her fat behind and living off of your guy for the rest of her life. No Judge will grant that kind of settlement.
You can also appeal the settlement at a later date to modify it if his situation has changed, if he has his own family now , his own kid with the second wife that kid or kids will get priority by law and Judges will review and modify the original amount. Also if his income has changed or liabilities have increased it will be modified. Remember as soon as the Judge signs the divorce, the ex wife loses her legal right as a spouse forever.
She can yell and threaten over the phone as much as she wants until you file a harassment suit she cannot demand this and that from your guy. If you are married to him forget it. You are the equal partner to your husband, the executor of his will, beneficiary of his life insurance policy. You decide how much goes to who and how. Even if its a court mandated alimony amount you can modify it later.
My advice to you dear smart and beautiful modern woman is that discuss all of this with your lover while he is still going through the divorce. Even go to a relationship counselor. Such as, me and my true love will have such and such life after his divorce. Ask him for suggestions, ask him what he wants, what he envisions a perfect life to be.
Discussing positive dreams can be therapeutic to your relationship. Finally, never be a victim You found the man of your dreams.
So he is transitioning out of a bad marriage. Guage his situation by asking relevant questions during the dating period. Then when you are closer formulate a plan. Be his best friend and he will never leave you.
Remember you are an empowered modern woman. You win in the board room. You glow in the bedroom. You don't suffer in silence. You get what you want. You create the best life you can envision. AND please please select a Psychic advisor who is not a suffering ex wife: