However most people are naturally on one end of the spectrum or the other. People with opposite energies will attract sexually. It's the spark and sizzle. Sex and the City Example It's not masculine as in muscle man and feminine as in a women in a dress and makeup. Think about Sex and the City. Charlotte would be the most feminine, then Carrie, then Samantha starts to get more masculine, and finally Miranda has the most masculine energy.
All of these career women are well dressed and love heels. Yet you can see the range in feminine and masculine energy. You can also look at the men they attract to see how they get their opposite energy.
Steve who more emotional and less career driven is attracted to Miranda. Carrie who is more feminine is attracted to the masculine Mr. These are clearly over-generalizations but will give you an idea. This list is a little black and white. It is suggested that you try to be the feminine more times than not in your relationship. Thankfully we have also evolved that woman who is more at home in masculine energy can build a wonderful life with a man who is happy in his feminine energy.
We now have a choice. This really explains why women swoon reading romance novels when a man forcibly takes his woman in his arms. You can see how we have evolved to a culture of men asking women out and paying for dates, more men at the top of companies, and more women in arts and child care. Deida suggests that you do what feels like a gift to your partner. David Deida explains the evolution of all this in three steps: I need a man — he completes me.
Bimbo stage and macho man. Also think 50s housewife. He controls her by her being dependent financially, physical force, emotionally etc.
There is little mature love in these relationships, but they can be intense. There is love but both partners are so neutral that there is little chemistry. Can you tell which phase you are in? Have you rejected your core energy? We now have a problem of over developing or rejecting our core energies. You can also see how we women have become more masculine in dating. Always being strong and playing hard to get -not letting men see our vulnerable side, giving men career advice on dates, and doing it all on our own and not asking for help.
You can also see we have a lot of men who have developed their feminine side or rejected their masculine side. They have little drive and purpose in their life. They lean on you for financial and emotional support. They may be 30 with no career prospects or don't seem too embarrassed to not have a car or their own place. There are also naturally feminine men out there who are not losers and would make wonderful partners for naturally masculine women.
Can you see now why a beautiful, successful career girl would end up attracting a guy living on his friends couch? You can also see how a successful man could be deeply attracted to a waitress? Experts also say that it is best to play up these differences in the beginning of the relationship but after awhile you can split a bill, plan a date for him, or be the one to fix the cars if that is your talent. I feel and look feminine. How do I know if I need to be more feminine?
Are you attracting wimpy losers? Men with no ambition, feminine men? Do I have to be the relationship director or only attract men looking for something casual? When a man does something for you or gives you something do you feel uncomfortable or embarrassed? Do you feel you have to pay back a man or return the favor if a man does something for you or gives you something? Does having a friends with benefits relationship or a boy toy more appealing than a relationship?
Are you uncomfortable letting a man see you cry? Do you love being in control? Do you rarely do leisurely activities for no real reason at all? Or are you always logical, efficient, and rational with your time? How to be More Feminine Rene Wade has some great advice on how to be more feminine on her website. To get you started, here is a quick list of activities that bring our your feminine energy: You might even feel more relaxed after reading that list.
As a society we put monetary value on masculine things that have a purpose and utility. Rori Raye suggests in her work that you should use your "girl energy" and lean back in the relationship. When you lean back stop trying to fix, control, direct, do , he has no choice but to step up to the plate and take on the "boy energy.