You have probably read some horrible blind dates on the web or, worse, on TV. It is supposed to be an exciting way to meet new people to hang out with, or even end up on a relationship with. How your date sees you within just minutes of meeting you sets the stage for the entire date. That is why you should first give importance to your appearance and grooming. Remember, you only have one chance at that first impression, so make a good one. Select clothing that is appropriate for your date.
Select a casual get-up for a lunch date or going to the movies; or put on something more dressy when planning for a nice dinner date. Also, do not wear clothes that are too revealing, strange, or over the top. Get a new haircut or hairstyle, which is most advisable a day before the date. For women, it is best to have your hair styled at the salon several hours before meeting your blind date. Wear an ample amount of perfume or cologne. Do not overdo it though.
Most important, arrive early. Keep yourself safe Even if blind date can be fun, you should never let your guard down. Consider a public place for your date venue like a restaurant or a park. In that way, you would feel more relaxed in getting along with your blind date. Make sure that a friend knows where you will be and at what time. Also, tell your friend the name of your date. Carry a cell phone with you at all times. Use it to call emergency when needed. Keep your first date short A simple short date is a great way to meet someone on a blind date, especially if you are meeting someone for the first time.
If you do not feel the connection or chemistry with your date, you can simply make an exit right after. However, if you are interested, you can stick around some more or arrange to meet up again in the future.
Some recommended options for a short date include meeting up for coffee, a drink date in the evening, or a lunch date during the weekday. Keep your schedule flexible Make sure that your first blind date would not coincide with other concerns such as work, especially if you are planning to make your date longer. Flex your schedule with additional activities with your partner such as going to the movies, dancing at the club, or joining a group activity such as yoga classes.
Be polite Whether the date goes well or bad, being polite with your date creates a mark on your personality. Greet your date with a handshake upon meeting with him or her. Starting it off with a kiss may send the wrong message.
Smile, even if you are nervous. Open doors, hang up her coat, pull out her chair. Even today when chivalry is a dying trait among men, it is best to provide respect to your date. Women should always be thankful. Be grateful after he opens the door for you, thank him after he pull out a chair for you. You could tell your date that, for instance, you have to leave early because you need to work right after. Just be honest and be yourself. Answer questions honestly and talk about yourself without exaggerating facts.
Remember that your date wants to know who you are, not who your date wants you to be. Talk and listen Conversation is extremely important in making your blind date a success. Remember to keep the topics light, aiming at getting to know more about your date. Also, let your date talk and you should listen. Show an interest to what he or she is saying. What you should talk about: Ask about your date. What does he or she do for a living? Which state or city was he or she from? What are his or her interests and hobbies?
Is your date come from a tight-knit family? What does his or her friends do when they go out? What your date has revealed about him or her, tell to your date about your side as well. That keeps you from revealing too much about yourself, but you could tell more about it on your next date.
If he or she is well-dressed and well-groomed, compliment about it as soon as you meet your date. However, stop complimenting once your date feels uneasy about it but that rarely happens. Discuss about movies, TV, and music.
Ask your date if he or she likes to watch movies or TV, music and know his or her favorites. Make a connection on your common favorites. For instance, if your date revealed that he or she is into tech gadgets, ask what would be his or her dream gadget to own. What you should NOT talk about: Do not discuss past relationships.
If your date asks about your past relationships, just tell him or her of how long your most long-term relationship lasted. Do not talk about religion and politics. People will always have different opinions about these topics, and most of the time they would not agree. Topics that do not interest the other person. If you have an interest that your date finds unusual or boring, stop talking about it.
Do not ever say anything that would offend your date or anyone else. Being mean and inconsiderate does not make a good impression. Do not monopolize the conversation. Do not cross-examine your date. Mind your language First impressions do not only focus on your appearance, but also on the way you communicate both verbal and non-verbal.
Your date may scrutinize your tone of voice, the words that you use, and even how your body reacts. As we said before, just be yourself. Do not be to stiff, instead you should relax and react appropriately. Another good body language is to face your belly button towards your date, an indication that you are interested to him or her.
Check for warning signs Even if you are not supposed to enter a blind date with bad expectations in mind, you should keep an eye out of some warning signs that your date would not be a good partner.
Your date wears a wedding ring, even if your date claims that he or she is divorced or widowed. Your date talks about past failed relationships. This is an indication that your date is not open to entering a new relationship or is anticipating for another bad relationship and would talk to his or her next date about your relationship. Your date speaks badly about his mother or exes. This especially applies to men who tend to bad-mouth about other women, especially their mothers or ex-girlfriends.
If he ever does this, it means that he would most likely disrespect you as well. Your date does not offer to pay. Although men are dictated by etiquette to pay for the first date, the women should at least offer to pay for their share of the meal. Your date is directly rude at you. Once you notice that your date is either rude or even making fun at you, end your date as soon as possible.
Your date is rude towards waiters. This is a good indicator on how your date treats other people, including you even if he appears to be nice towards you.
Your date drinks a lot. If your date is drinking excessively during your first date, it is most likely that he or she would do it more often and could even destroy your relationship. Your date does not pay attention to you. It simply means that your date is uninterested. If you feel that there is no connection or chemistry between the two of you, end the date as soon as possible. Ending the date How to end your blind date depends if it is a success or a failure.
If you meet your date at his or her house, take him or her home. If you do not have a car, a cab will do. If you meet your date at a public place, volunteer to take him or her home. If your date declines, offer to hitch a cab for your date. Be thankful to the other person. Tell you date that you want to see him or her again. A good indicator of a successful blind date is if the woman offers her phone number to her date.