Originally Posted by lrfox This isn't necessarily untrue. However, it sort of goes along with the New England persona in general guarded, but direct and to the point. I wouldn't disagree that in general this is, of course, a sweeping generalization and individual experiences vary , women in Boston are somewhat less approachable than in other cities. In fact, I enjoy it. The difference was that it was easier to just strike up a conversation with someone in some of those other cities.
But more often than not, the conversation lead to nothing. Don't get me wrong, there are plenty of times when just striking up a casual, platonic conversation with a woman at a bar is pleasant and enjoyable. I had fun regardless of the turnout. But when I'm seriously interested in a possible romantic connection, I don't really love talking to someone who isn't interested for an hour.
This probably makes me shallow to a degree in some peoples' eyes, but it's true. I enjoy that in Boston, 9 out of 10 times if a woman isn't interested, she won't give me the time of day.
Sure, it means you have to have thick skin and the ability to quickly recover. But it also means you're not going to spend an hour or so in a conversation trying to decipher whether she's genuinely interested in you or just likes the conversation and nothing else.
Frankly, I welcome the directness of women's approach to dating in Boston. There's no beating around the bush no terrible pun intended. I consider it a favor. In fact, if a woman is interested in you, it's just as likely that she'll come up to you and start talking it happens plenty.
My female friends most are not native to this area love going out in Boston vs. In Boston, it's the norm to be quick about it.
And frankly, I don't blame women. Why should someone have to sit and politely smile and not while a guy struggles through forced small talk when they know they're not interested from the start multiple times in a night? There's no shortage of successful, attractive young people in Boston.
Finally, I think approaching women in bars in Boston has helped me in other cities. For one, rejection is easy to brush off I've seen people crumble because someone at a bar won't talk to them. And two, it makes it easier to get what I want i. If I'm looking for a romantic connection and she isn't, then I'm probably wasting both of our time by babbling on.
Casual conversation is a lot of fun. I do enjoy it most of the time. In fact, as a recently single professional in my mid 20s, it's about all I'm looking for at a bar right now. I'll admit, it's not as easy to do as in other cities, but it's not impossible either generally, it's easiest when you talk to a woman like a normal human being When I do start looking for a girlfriend or something less committed , I know I'll appreciate the Boston directness.
It'll make things a lot easier. So not what LTR dating is all about. Perhaps the one night stand or the ever popular bed buddy. It's about the chase. That's what's wrong with this place! It's about having conversation. Even if people aren't romantically interested, you get a better sense of what you SHOULD be interested in to get the people you want to be interested in you interested.
You can have good conversation and hook up with someone. Main reason why this is a single's city. Yes, and many girls look a mess in Boston. I just don't get it. Thunder thighs and pumpkin booty hanging all out of busted black tights, and a white tank top with last nights adventure still on it.
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