Share via Email Hello, dear YP. I am back indeed with the same topic , but this time around with an additional part 2 — the male perspective. I was pleasantly bombarded with various opinions, many agreeing with my fluffy views while many others mainly men expressing a dissimilar sentiment. This left me curious and intrigued with the Montreal male perspective.
And so I rounded up my male homies and assaulted them with questions over the last couple of weeks with the intention of answering: Beautiful Women, Many Single. Before going ahead and spilling the beans, I would like to highlight that I would have probably needed a few years of research to really answer this question. Since I have a full-time job and a deadline for today, I figured I could begin by sharing my initial findings that I have categorized in three stages.
The first stage is Courting, better defined as the challenge to find a date. The second stage is Dating, the period before a relationship, and the final one is In a Relationship.
I can begin by confidently stating that all stages have only reaffirmed the complex and intricate nature of the Montreal dating scene. Grim Courting High Standards The astronomical standards set by women, both physically and professionally, have reached sky-high limits. Blame it on the perfect man picture propagated by magazines, movies, music videos and what not, but according to Montreal men, women are setting unreachable expectations for their potential significant others and consequently paving a path to singlehood.
As is, women seek perfection and instantly filter out any guy that does not meet all six pages of their criteria. Men, humble as they claim, admit that they practice the same filtering process, especially because of the generous amount of beautiful ladies in Montreal. I date one hot girl and I see six equally hot ones sizzling my way. As a male colleague explains: Many tools, including online dating, Facebook, and even LinkedIn strange, I agree have opened a wide door to quick and fast interactions.
Truth is, if you like a guy, then wait before giving it up. Many men, but not all nationality was a real differentiating factor , stressed that if a women really likes a guy, she should wait…not days, not weeks, but months! Frankly, this really surprised me and pushed me to dig deeper. You are neither alive nor dead; you have been completely emasculated. No woman wants to be with a teddy bear. Here are a few suggested ones: The male species advises women to postpone discussing about commitment, marriage, or babies too early on in a relationship.
Instead, let the relationship grow organically and progress naturally. Unfortunately, as ladies accumulate birthday candles, a little something called the biological clock starts ticking annoyingly, breaking the organic flow of a relationship and sometimes the relationship altogether. Women need to simply replace simply with its antonym find that fine balance, and follow their hearts instead of societal and biological pressures.
Give Him Space Some of my male subjects articulated that in the beginning of a relationship, women preferred to spend more time with their significant other, while men contrastingly required more space. Once again, women need to master that fine unspoken balance.
Ideally, a lady needs to continue to live her life, while not reprioritizing and centering her existence around her boyfriend, because, hmmm, he might just dump her. We, men and women alike, still have the same stamina we did when we were in our 20s. We are still discovering ourselves, exploring our interests in life and in relationships, and the thought of commitment becomes a rather distant consideration. This forms a friction between both sexes and results in a pool of biologically ticking single women.
Men, on the other hand, begin their real prime in their 30s, when they are well established financially and in their careers. These conflicting prime periods only deepen the tensions, create incompatibilities and add confusion to our already convoluted dating scene. What Do Women Really Want? Why is that so? The Notebook is a Movie According to myriad men, numerous women seem to be looking for that awe-struck sudden infatuation.
We have been made to believe that it exists, which maybe it does, but certainly not as much as romantic movies would suggest.
Consequently, women keep waiting for something that seldom happens and continue to pave a road to singlehood. As I mentioned in my last article, women have become quite fulfilled with their lives. They have good careers, endless social activities, and the list could go on, leaving little time for a boyfriend.
Conclusion Sigh, this study has become personally disheartening. The quantity of double standards on both female and male sides has become intolerably confusing and so, to conclude, I would like to wish you all good luck. But since I should end this on a positive note, I would like to share with you a theory that has been proposed to me, and that may temporarily patch up that deep and tragic insecurity that I may have inflected on you sorry.
Maybe, just maybe, an array of compatible single men and women do exist, but have simply not found each other. On that note, I wish you all good luck.