I have my own job and I make my own money and on top of that I am working towards getting a fantastic degree which will land me my dream career. I want to be the one who wines and dines the girl and spoils her. I don't want to date someone to be better off financially. While I agree that a relationship should be equal between the guy and girl, a part of me still respects the traditional role that the man should take care of his woman and give her financial security.
My life is extremely busy and I don't usually have any free time on my hands anymore. I don't usually have time to feel bored. If I do have any spare time I usually end up relaxing at home because I'm so tired frm everything else I have been doing, or just go out with friends to parties or just to dinner or any other social gathering. Loneliness - now this may be the only reason out of the 4 you have listed that I may consider dating someone for.
But at the same time, just because I am lonely it does not mean I will date just anyone. I still have to be attracted to the girl and have that chemistry there for things to work. I mean, even with my busy life I am still lonely right now when it comes to dating and I know there are girl friends of mine that are in the same position but I am not going to date them because we are not attracted to each other and we don't have that spark.
I mean yeah, it would be great to have a girl by my side but the fact that you are lonely because you have nobody to date shows that you re not happy with your life in general which also means you are insecure when you are alone. I don't think it's good to date just because you're lonely because you may become clingy and rely on the person you are dating to bring you all the happiness you crave.
This is where loneliness and boredom overlap. If you are bored you should do things with your life that make you happy and give your life some fulfillment.
I do other things to keep me occupied and I actually enjoy them and they make me happy which is why I am not so focused on my loneliness so much anymore. Plus, with all these things I do in my spare time, I have met some really nice girls who may turn into potential dates in the near future. Pity - only if I was genuinely attracted to the person. I would love to be the guy that makes the girl feel special and love herself again.
But at the same time, I wouldn't want this to lead to the girl being clingy just because I gave her that special attention that she needed. This may lead to me having to be responsible for most of the relationship and puttingin most of the effort to make it work when really we should being doing that together.