This is part 2 of a 10 post series. You don't need to read the previous post but if you want to go ahead. A few months ago I signed up to an online dating site.
From my knowledge photos are very important, profiles only matter if she finds you attracted and messages don't matter unless they're cringeworthy, confusing or very boring and generic Hi how was your weekend? After reading up on poses and photographs I took pretty good photos of myself. I figured out which were my best photos, I posted on reddit for a second opinion and I had reddit take a look at my profile. It appeared to be all good. I had a terrible time: After messaging three dozen girls four replied and they all replied once or twice.
After browsing for a few days I found it hard to remember which profiles I already visit and wasn't attracted to versus the ones I were attracted to versus the ones I disliked or not have much in common based on what was said on their profile.
There was a feature which let me like or pass a profile not this isn't tinder but that's likely my next post so I used that to like every girl I was attracted to. I just did a search and only looked at the ones I 'liked' and it was far easier to remember which ones I had nothing in common with and which ones I should message. I ended up messaging girls, nearly all were unique messages specifically for her. Profiles with one line in every section I used a generic message.
I had about 16 messages and only 6 replies more than twice. I ended up going on one date after messaging girls. What the hell is this: I had a second date lined up but before we set a date or exchange numbers she literally disappears from the site. It's been two full weeks it shows when a person was last online.
I could possibly have a second but it's not likely. Why is it so difficult to get anyone to reply back? One girl who messaged me first didn't reply after I replied. I simply answered her question in a sentence or two, made a comment on her profile and asked her a question so she could easily reply back.
I was pretty confused when she didn't reply back because apparently some girls find it difficult having men reply to their first message. With the messages I sent out I keep it to sentences and always with 1 question maybe two.
I posted on a few subs and they thought the messages were ok and explained to me about the photos and profile. I have people saying the pictures are pretty good but I guess it's not good enough or that I'm too average looking. It's ridiculous how few girls like me. I swiped 8, profiles, I liked 1, of them almost a quarter of profiles and 50 liked me. I know many girls don't bother with that but I got 50 and only 7 of them were matches. What was annoying to me was only one had a conversation with me and she wasn't the girl I went on a date with.
Two deactivated before I could message her, two lived far too far so I didn't message and two didn't reply. What am I suppose to do?! My photos were good in the lighting and pose sense. I was well dressed and looked good according to subs on reddit. My profile was absolutely fine and I received a few messages with references to something I wrote in my profile. Messages are apparently just fine.
I tried to be humorous and interesting. I got a few messages saying "haha that's funny" but usually I don't get a reply after that and two women were interested enough in something she steered the conversation back after I changed the subject.
So like WTH is going on? I plan on writing something about girls I meet and ask out in person so you may want to save some of your comments for that.