Do you want to go to the same church as a couple? If your boyfriend is of a different faith, where will you get married? What would your relationship be like if your boyfriend believed in God? What do your parents and friends say about dating a guy outside your faith? On a scale of 1 to 10, how important is your faith? Take time to really think about these questions. Sometimes he hits us over the head with His will, sometimes the Holy Spirit shouts at us, and sometimes Jesus shows up roaring like a lion.
God speaks in a dozen different ways throughout your day — and a million different ways throughout your life. Stay connected to Him. You ARE His will. Just being you is His will for your life. Let go of the idea that God has one perfect will for your life, and you have to hunt and search to find it. Take a deep breath, and listen. Pay attention to how you feel, what people are telling you, and which opportunities feel right to you. Fear is one of the most important warning signs of bad relationships!
This is one of the ways He is speaking to you. Use your God-given brains What is your logical, rational mind telling you about your boyfriend? You were given a beautiful, mysterious, complicated brain that God expects you to use! You were given wisdom in the form of Scripture, other people, books, pastors, sermons, Christian blogs, spiritual writers, your parents. Take a step away from your relationship. Look past your natural longing to love and be loved.
Would you advise your sister to date your boyfriend — or any guy outside her faith? One of the best ways to figure out what you really think and how you really feel is to write in a journal.
Answer the questions I ask below. Ask Him what He thinks about you having a relationship outside your faith.
Maybe you could even ask Him to speak to your boyfriend, to draw him closer, or even to help him believe. Pray with your boyfriend for wisdom and guidance Do you and your boyfriend pray together?
That is one of the most important ways to decide if you should date a guy outside your faith. Praying can be one of the most intimate, close things you can do in a dating relationship. Your prayers as a couple can strengthen your relationship with each other, and with God.
Praying is unity and connection for believers; not praying is walls and obstacles. This will be a constant source of friction and conflict. And so it should be! Within the covenant community of faith, there should be those around a person that can speak of their reputation and whether they are serious about growing in the Lord and putting sin to death in their life.
Is there seriousness in your boyfriend to grow in his relationship and understanding with the Lord? Matt adds that he has sadly found that single Christian women and men hit an area of desperation. A Christian woman who really wants to be in a relationship may date and marry outside her faith because she really wants to be loved.
This is natural and normal! The key to a strong, healthy relationship is to grow in your faith. Walk with your Creator, your Father, your comfort and shelter. Accept His love and healing, His joy and peace.
Rest in the knowledge that you are fearfully and wonderfully made! He has a purpose for you. It just means that there is a reason you are here today, and God will redeem the mistakes and heal the wounds. After all, how many of us would walk down the aisle if we believed our relationships would end up in divorce court?
The truth is, no relationship comes with a lifetime guarantee. We know that if a Christian couples read the Bible, go to church, and grow stronger spiritually then we have a strong foundation for marriage. But, according to author Gary Thomas, our marriage is more about us and God, not us and our husbands.
A huge part of growing stronger in your walk with God is to commit yourself to a guy who not only believes in God, but encourages you to prioritize God above all else. In You and Me Forever: Setting aside typical topics on marriage, Francis and Lisa dive into Scripture to understand what it means to have a relationship that satisfies the deepest parts of our souls.
The way to have a great marriage is by not focusing on marriage. Ask for His guidance, wisdom, and peace. Listen, and you will Blossom.