Will you please be my girlfriend? What do you say? Will you be my girlfriend? What do you think? This way, there are no misunderstandings at the conclusion of the conversation. Keep in mind, with such a direct question, the girl may not be ready to give an answer right away and may need time to think it over. If this is the case, try to be patient while suggesting a specific day and time when you can check back in with her to get her answer.
Appropriate wording for this situation might be, "I understand you want to think it over. How about we talk about this again on Monday, and you can give me your answer then? If it has to occur via text or computer such as with a long-distance relationship , you still want to make sure that you're clear. Go Directly to Her Don't allow your desire for a girlfriend to turn into a weird game of telephone. Don't send your friend to ask on your behalf. Right Time and Place Setting the stage for asking a girl to be your girlfriend should revolve around what makes the both of you the most comfortable.
Be sure to choose a location where the two of you will be able to focus on one another. A crowded party where you have to yell over other people is not an ideal setting, for example. A special spot that means something to the two of you such as where you first met or a place she loves this makes an ideal spot for asking because it adds romance and helps her understand how much time you spent thinking this over.
She'll understand this was not a spur-of-the-moment decision you may later regret. It's best to do this without an audience; don't allow friends or bystanders to turn the situation into a spectacle or make her feel pressured.
Timing Is Important Try to select a time when there aren't time constraints, so the conversation isn't rushed. For example, asking while passing through the halls on the way to the next class will probably make her feel like she's under pressure to decide and her knee-jerk reaction may be to say no. The Cute Route If you take some time beforehand to plan out the moment of asking her to be your girlfriend, there are plenty of cute ways to ask.
Be advised, if the girl isn't the type of person who would enjoy something cute, then using a cute way to ask her out may send the message you don't truly know her or might make her uncomfortable.
Write out your question in chalk, either in her driveway or along her walking path to school. Be sure to sign it. Present her with a cake or cookie with icing that spells out the question for you.
Give her a heart jewelry, or drawn, or folded paper and say, "Now that I've given you my heart, will you be my girlfriend? The Big Moment It's important to go into the moment confident and ready.
On the other hand, don't rehearse so much beforehand that the moment becomes a monolog where you don't listen to her response. Whether you plan an elaborate moment or keep it low key, make sure your intentions are clear, and you try to help her feel at ease. The less awkward and anxious you feel the more comfortable the moment will be. Was this page useful?