Quality men pair off with significant stability early on, and the remaining single men have significantly larger viable age range than women can generally expect. Everything you say about yourself someone will find off-putting. You need just enough to show you're likely a real profile and give the people you contact something to ask you about if they decide to respond. A friend of mine had an okcupid profile where he dedicated words to denying that he ever had sex with a bowl of macaroni and cheese.
It was hilarious, and he's the one person I've met in my entire life who reversed the equation presented in the article. That said, unless you've got some comic gold up your sleeve, you're probably right. I suspect none of those words were about him directly, so the respondents had something to ask about, and no information about him specifically to dislike. Sounds like he found the butter zone with that. Different things work for different people.
I once had quite a few positive replies to a personal ad where all I did was list things I hated. The real key is to distinguish yourself from the ocean of generic ads and profiles. Young women statistically want to date older men even if only by a few years since older men are more capable, confident, and have far more resources.
Men want to date younger women usually again by only a few years. The end result is that men have a much tougher time competing up until mids, and then roles suddenly reverse and women in their late 20s and beyond are left wondering 'where all the men went'.
It is, like everything, a sort of game. The successful are the ones who adapt. That can mean changing approaches, trying new things, developing new interests, changing standards, etc. I did online dating off and on for three years before getting into a long term relationship through it, and the one thing I can tell you is that by the end of it a I sent different sorts of messages, b I had different sorts of profile pictures, and c I behaved differently on dates.
I paid attention, I didn't assume I deserved anything, I made adjustments, and it paid off. Sure, I'm jealous of the extremely good looking people who don't have to try, but you don't have to be one of them to find success. Seriously, don't take dating advice from women.
They give you bad advice not because they don't care for you they genuinely do want to help and their intentions are good and pure , but their advice is bad because they don't understand what it's actually like to date women. It's not their fault either. Before everyone jumps on me for hating women, I don't.
I love the women, they're wonderful. I'm not making a moral judgment, just stating a practical fact. To see why this is bad advice, consider if you weren't very good at basketball and asked a friend on how to improve. If they said "be yourself", that would be crazy.
Clearly, whatever you've been doing hasn't been working, so doing more of that isn't going to improve anything. If you actually want tips to meaningfully improve your dating life, feel free to email me email in profile. Happy to chat more offline. That's the crucial difference between it and basketball. In dating, some people are after finding someone who is compatible with them, and if you're not being yourself, you're basically misrepresenting yourself, and lessening your chances of finding someone compatible -- as they think you're someone other than who you really are, and if they think themselves compatible with you, they're really only compatible with the image you are projecting of yourself.
So, really, lie about who you are at the risk of incompatibility.. You take my analogy too literally and interpreted it incorrectly. I could have used "crocheting" instead of "basketball" and the analogy would be just as strong.
From your incorrect interpretation, you made wildly false conclusions about my lying to others, pretending to be someone I'm not, and generally misrepresenting myself, as if you think that's what I do on my dates.
I've learned how to date women by building self confidence, learning tactics, and also just as importantly, understanding what women want at a deeply psychological level.
What this results in is my making the right moves at the right times in the right way and advancing the ball forward appropriately. You can bet that I do this with women I'm attracted to, both physically and in terms of beliefs, values, and attitudes. This also means that I back off and move on when I realize that there is no mutual interest.
Too many men chase after women who will never be interested in them, and that is a complete waste of time. Everything you said after your first two sentences is completely false conjecture. If you believe that that's what learning to date women is about, then you are doing yourself the greatest disservice in the world.