Be safe and be on the lookout for these early relationship warning signs. The start of every new relationship is all butterflies and happiness. That other person is often everything we dreamed of—smart, funny, attractive, the whole works. It is as it should be, some would say. That might be true but we could prevent a lot of heartbreak —for ourselves and the other person involved—if we could only critically assess the situation at the beginning.
After all, you deserve to be happy and not trapped in a dependent or an unfulfilling relationship. How are they treating other people? Most of the time, so is the other person—and there is nothing wrong with that. However, if the difference between how the person is treating you and how they are treating others is too great, then there is cause for alarm.
Sugarcoating is one thing, pretending to be a completely different person is another. Pay close attention to how your significant other treats others around them—especially those they deem inferior waiters, janitorial staff. They are still hung up on their ex. Meaning, the ex is still in the picture. Now, this might be benign. After all, there are people in all our lives we used to date and are still friends with ; however, if they are mentioning their ex way too often, there might be a reason for that.
If it seems that they might get back together frequent calls, emergency situations where your partner is a shoulder to cry on, and so on , take heed. If that is the case, consider parting ways before you become too invested. Most of us have boundaries and there is nothing wrong with that. When someone sidesteps the process of easing their way into your life and starts demanding information or starts demanding things to be as they want, they are violating your boundaries.
It can seem trivial at first—pressuring you to go out when you would rather stay in after a long day at work—but these things add up in time and can cause real problems down the line. It takes various forms: Adults communicate their fears, wishes, concerns, and aspiration in a structured manner and without throwing a tantrum.
Your core values are extremely different and no one is budging. However, these things should be discussed as soon as you realize the relationship is getting serious. They are not happy being themselves.
Somehow, you seem to be the center their life revolves around. At that point, you might end up being sucked into that same black hole. Best piece of advice you could get in a situation like this—get out while there is still time! On the other hand, you might be starting a relationship where only you care what you think about any given topic. This tends to get worse over time.
As the time goes by, it becomes more difficult to break things off as we get more entangled and emotionally invested. So a word of advice: About the Author Michael Gorman is high skilled editor and proofreader who currently works at Aussiessay. He is proficient in blog writing and online freelance networking. Feel free to contact him via Facebook.
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