Raindrops were slowly accumulating on top of his brown desert boots, which he had strategically chosen to match the color of his jacket. Pushed by forces that you hear only when you set foot on the battlefield, Harry jumped on the first step of the entrance leading to the large building. The goal was to make himself look longer. His new height changed the view and gave him an opportunity to see a glowing waterfall formed by the rain and the street lamp. Everything was trivial and yet magical.
The rain intensified and transformed the dark trees around into a percussion orchestra by hitting the dying November leaves as if they were drums. The movement was subtle and yet it revealed in detail the emotional whirlpool inside of him. His words were clothed in a rusty, whiskey timbre. His ego was tired of inhabiting a man looking like a loser meditating under the rain. He instinctively went through his screens and saw the gallery app.
He pressed on it by habit. The pixels united and formed a digital image of his date before him — she was beautiful and thankfully not fat. Conversely, she was different from the picture. Pimples missing from the original report were covering her face whereas her clothes appeared strangers to a washing machine and style. Yet she was with someone seemingly extracted from the higher stratosphere. This image stood with Harry throughout the whole workout. I remember the early, primitive days.
Back then, women were not nearly as interested in technology. Many considered the computing machines a zone reserved for male nerds incapable of obtaining sexual experiences. Yes, women began to use the computer to download entertainment, mainly movies and songs, but this kind of addiction is neither as obvious nor as criticized. After all, the TV had already been injecting the veins of the modern humanoid for quite some time. The real change took place when MySpace entered the online realm.
This was the turning point. The main difference was that the user had more control over the design of his or hers personal page. There were themes and various settings to play with. Every profile was different, unlike Facebook which looks like a database and gives you close to zero customization options.
I had the chance to see the effect of MySpace on women from the first row. A family member of mine became addicted to MySpace. Tuning her profile turned into a part-time job.
If she was in front of a computer, she was on MySpace. This form of MySpace faded, but the new social media and the smartphones sealed the deal by building and maintaining the digital weapons and infrastructure needed to capture the female population. Today, women are more than addicted to social media and phones. Texting female zombies have become the norm. In most cases, they are on Facebook, Messenger or Instagram.
The younger generations also play with juvenile stuff like SnapChat. Many women would rather get a divorce or quit their job than delete their social media accounts. Why are women so addicted to social media? Let me answer your question with questions. Do you know that feeling when you head-shot someone in CS: Do you know that feeling when you receive the text message or the e-mail that you have been waiting for all day? Do you know that feeling when the courier calls you to give you a parcel?
Do you know that feeling when nattyornot. The more dopamine there is, the harder it becomes to let go and do something else. There are even companies that specialize in strategies designed to render digital products even more addicting by increasing the production of dopamine. The collaboration between the social media and smartphones results in a highly efficient dopamine factory.
Notifications in all their forms ticks, vibrations, sounds…etc. I would even say that they are more effective than video games because you link them to real life events and opportunities. This is not the case when it comes to notifications since they relate directly to sex, love, friendship, money, fame and status. Ego Satisfaction What is the ego?
In other words, an element that dictates almost every action that people make. Since social media allow you to alter the way other humans see you in a very effective manner, it becomes easy to join the party and never look back.
Constant validation Social media platforms are capable of providing constant validation. Hearing how pretty and cool you are never gets tiresome. The average woman receives a hundred times more validation than the average man. Just click on the profile picture of a random woman, and you will see at least 50 likes and many comments suggesting that she is magnificent beyond belief. One time I saw the profile photo of a girl that was simply ugly. Maybe it was just the photo…maybe not…most likely not, and yet the army of positive comments was there.
The same happens to men too, but not nearly to the same degree, for women are less likely to compliment a man.
Positive comments from your buddies may be cool, but we all know what we really want — female attention. Power Dating apps, sites and their unofficial form known as social media gave women an opportunity to hurt an incredible amount of males and females for the matter directly and indirectly. Inflicting pain is a source of power in itself and could be very addictive.
It is hardly a surprise that women are reluctant to give up the throne. Those four pillars result in social media addiction of the highest order. The Side Effects The female power online created dynamics that will be studied by future generations in psychology and history classes. Which segment do you think has mutated the most? Back in the day, people looking for love online were considered freaks, weirdos and cowards. This is no longer the case.
You can find all kinds of individuals online — from beggars to princes. Flirt websites and especially apps such as Tinder have had the highest impact on dating because they created an infrastructure allowing women to easily connect with various categories of potential lovers.
Online dating gave women power of a magnitude so great that even they are scared of it sometimes. Women dictate things online for the following reasons: There are more men than women online. More men are willing to make an online dating profile because: Men are rational and put an emphasis on efficiency. If you are a woman that gets hit on 5 times every time you leave the house, the incentive to participate in online dating is smaller.
Most men have a higher sex drive than women because testosterone is one hell of a hormone. You may think that the high percentage of males online means that men dictate the rules of the game, but you are forgetting a few details. First, the keyword is online. Second, those men are competing against each other directly. Third, when a commodity of any kind is available in great quantities, its price usually drops, for there are many options.
If for every woman online there are 20 men, the value of a single proposal decreases significantly. Why would anyone cry over you when there are 20 more just like you ready to take over?
Some Apps and Dating Sites are Sexist Some dating apps and sites are free or at least cheaper for women whereas men always have to pay for the nice sexy features — kind of like the clubs that allow women to enter without paying anything. If that is not sexist, I do not know what is. Texting This one is huge. Undoubtedly, there are some benefits to texting, but without discipline, convenience always turns into imbalances and suffering.
Texting, coupled with the online dating dynamics, provided women with great power because of its casual and accidental properties. In the past, there was no texting. If you wanted to ask out a woman, you had to do it either in person, through friends, in a paper later or on the phone. What will she say? There are three possibilities. Yes, no, some other time which is a no.
Texting does not offer a completely different answer, but it does not require a fast response — a very important characteristic. The exchanged words and their timing have a double meaning and contain different forms of tests. Silence is also a test. Many women love to leave you hanging in order to see how you will react. Of course, the outcome of those tests depends on how much they actually like you. If they are really into you, you will get away with bad answers or may not even be tested.
If they are hesitating about you, the wrong behavior will earn you a rejection.