Tweet Whether we like it or not, online dating is here to stay. Not every guy maintains the kind of lifestyle that is conducive to going out every single night, but with apps like Tinder and Bumble the best in my opinion , you can literally game twenty-four hours a day.
It might be a Monday night, and you could be sitting in your bedroom eating ramen, un-showered with your hair a mess, yet still be setting up dates for later in the week. It just takes a little strategy and a little cleverness. The desired result of online dating is the same as taking an in-person approach, but the skill set you need to be successful is very different. At a bar or club guys can use body language, tone of voice and strong eye-contact to get their point across.
There are a million ways to convey confidence and attractiveness face-to-face, but the online game is a very different animal. Creativity and a strong command of the English language will go a long way, but there are also some things you want to avoid if you want to get the most out of your online gaming time.
Work on your writing skills No one is saying you have to be the next Hemingway, but being able to convey your sense of humor and personality with well-written messages goes a long way. Try and tap into your sense of wit and let it come through in your texting. Stick to short sentences that make her laugh, and try not to say things that every other guy is saying.
Be original and, as Woody Allen says, find your funny. You can use a canned line to get things going, but once she responds, cut the tether and let your personality fly. In a lot of situations, these kinds of pictures while totally awesome are a trap. Girls post them to see if you have self-control. Look at it this way: Ask for her number Ideally, you want to transition to texting as soon as possible.
Whatever app you choose should function only as way for her to pre-screen you. The only real rule here is to do it at the right time. If you ask for it too soon, you might freak her out. Do you mind if we texted instead? Post try-hard pictures Nothing will turn her off more than a picture of you trying to look cool, or a professionally taken headshot. All you need are two or three photos of you living life. Try and find some candid shots of you doing some hobbies or hanging out with friends.
This is Tinder, not LinkedIn. Keep the photos fun, natural, and make sure they convey a little bit about who you are. And for the love of god, no shirtless mirror pics. Limit yourself to just one girl The whole point of apps like Tinder or Bumble is that they open your dating pool to an infinite number of girls.
As guys we have to adapt to the dating scene, and more and more girls are finding people online. Enter your name and email below to get a FREE copy of this report He is currently working on a novel about internet dating and spends his free time practicing aerial photography, socializing and, when possible, sleeping.