We went over some basic speed dating tips in part 1 , now it's time to go into greater detail about having unique, interesting conversations during your speed date. As we mentioned in part 1 , it is very important to set yourself apart from the rest of the crowd at a speed dating event.
If you ask the same questions as the other daters, your conversations will likely be forgettable. By the end of the event, people will be tired of answering the same questions about their job and hobbies! So we'll offer some suggestions of how you can initiate a unique and engaging conversation. After sitting down at the table and introducing yourselves to each other, look at your date and say something along these lines playfully, with a smile: So, I've decided not to ask you what kind of job you have, or what you like to do fun.
Instead, I'm gonna try to get a feel for your personality, based upon your answer to a hypothetical question. You're also demonstrating that you're interested in getting to know her personality instead of just being interested in her for her looks. It will make the woman feel like she needs to impress you, instead of you trying to impress her! Now you can ask her a fun, hypothetical question. Try to relate it to some of your own interests sports, music, travel, etc. Here is an example: Where would you go, and which artist would you see?
For example, if her response to the first question is "I'd see Nickelback in Japan", you can reply several different ways: What is it specifically about Japan that you're drawn to? It's always good to have about 3 or 4 questions prepared so that you have stuff to talk about in case the discussion slows down.
Try to steer the conversation to fun topics that will get her to talk about things that she didn't discuss with the other daters. Things like "favorite childhood cartoons", "weirdest halloween costume you wore as a kid", etc. Another strategy is to have a few interesting news stories ready.
Maybe you read an article last week about a monkey who taught himself how to ride a bike, or a man who lived for 6 months without eating any food. Keep the conversation going and before you know it, the 5 minutes will be over. You'll probably leave on a high note, and she'll be left wanting to continue talking to you!
Above all else, the most important thing is to demonstrate that you have an interesting, unique and fun personality. It doesn't necessarily matter what you're talking about, it's all about delivering it in a positive, fun way.
Smile, be playful, speak with confidence and don't be afraid to tease your date. If you need to, don't be ashamed to practice in front of a mirror beforehand - whatever it takes to ensure that you'll be confident on the night of the event.
Here are a few more hypothetical speed dating questions that you can try asking: What kind of dessert would you make? Be sure to check out our massive collection of pick up lines , as well as our guide to Online Dating.
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