Click to print Opens in new window You might imagine that dating a new woman will be a lot like starring in your very own girl-on-girl romantic comedy: Who could be better at seduction than a woman?
I think we all have our own lesbian dating horror stories that we like to tell our friends as a warning of things to come. If we could just collectively raise the bar a little and invest as much in the art of dating as we do in the art of Facebooking, maybe lesbian courtship could be a brave new world. If you want someone who can articulate their feelings like a big girl, just tell your date that. After all, a picnic in the park can be even sexier than maxing out your credit card at Momofuku.
Lay down the cash where it matters most: DO NOT bring a date to a girl bar or a girl party. Your date does not need to meet your ex, or all your friends, the first few times you go out. Putting someone in a potentially socially awkward situation from the get-go is zero sexy. Ask them to do a specific activity at a specific time and place. Preferably an activity that is reflective of something most people enjoy i. This means, as part of your preparation for the date, you may want to read a book , the newspaper , or cultivate a hobby.
Are you creative enough to do some Googling to find an interesting restaurant followed by an out-of-the-box activity? DO bring something cute Victorians used to call it a love token, lesbians should call it flowers, wine or something you saw that made you think of her.
DO ask her about herself When she answers, ask follow-up questions that indicate your intent listening and the fact that you have a base line IQ that enables you to respond in an intelligent manner. If you know what she likes, consider learning a little more about it ahead of time and hint that you did so. DO text her or call her after the date to tell her you had a good time. DO keep it secret, keep it safe.
The greater lesbian community does not need to know who you are dating or what you did on your date.