Tap here to turn on desktop notifications to get the news sent straight to you. Keeping conversation flowing freely is no easy feat. To help you figure out what to talk about ahead of time, we asked therapists and psychologists who work with couples to share their favorite first date discussion points. See what they had to say below. What was the last thing you bragged about to your mom? You get to see your date light up and see them at their best.
Common values are more important to a relationship than common interests and by asking this question, you get to find out what they really value in their life. If you could get advice from anyone living or dead, who would you want advice from and what would you ask? If they pick a political figure, it could tell you about how conservative or liberal they are. Do you make your bed in the morning? It also allows for some interesting sharing about if they are a morning or night person and their usual morning routine.
If you could wave a magic wand right now and have your life be perfect, what would that new life look like? What could you spend all day talking about?
On your last vacation, did you plan everything out beforehand or go with the flow? For many people, having things scheduled or planned will cause anxiety and make a vacation stressful. On the other hand, those who are planners might find an open vacation with no plans to be anxiety provoking. This one gets to the bottom of it without it seeming like an interrogation. What dating advice would you give the high school version of you? You also get a sense of how the person sees him or herself then and now, and what could be improved.
A similar question might reference volunteerism! If you had a dinner party and had to invite a musician, a politician, a famous couple and only one family member, who would you invite? What would you be serving, where would you have it, and what would be on your dinner playlist? It also allows you to see how they use their imagination, which can be helpful later on in romance and sex.
We may have a problem. They despise country music and so do you? Still in the running. How do you spend your free time? Their answer could be spending time with friends or scrolling through political blogs.