Relationships are our favorite double-edged sword. Spending a sizable chunk of your life with a significant other can be one of your most rewarding, exhilarating experiences. But when or if that relationship turns sour, nothing is more miserable. We may refuse to believe it, but many of us think the best way to solve our problems is to find someone new to love.
It can be obvious or subtle. Our moods improve when someone new walks into our lives. We think things will be different with them.
Things will be better. Yet further down the line, the breakup happens again. The truth is, this cycle of relationship is just another pattern that we as humans are drawn to. Without a significant other by our side, we often feel lost or incomplete.
What if feeling lost or incomplete is actually normal? It turns out we tend to ignore a critical step in moving forward from relationships. Chances are you spent a pretty decent amount of time getting to know everything about your ex. Ponder over a few of these questions: What are your long-term and short-term goals?
Do you feel content in the most important areas of your life? Do you feel confident in yourself and your abilities? What makes you happy? Questions like these are what you need to ask yourself when you get out of a relationship. Fill the void with positivity and change —in your mental health, in your career, and your life in general.
There are many steps you can take to start loving yourself again. Here are a few suggestions: When you eat clean, you feel better. Your body will also thank you. This improves both the body and the mind. Spend some time alone with your thoughts. Take yourself on a nature walk, meditate, practice yoga, or just relax and do what you enjoy. Having enough sleep will give your body the rest it needs and the time to regenerate and get going. These basically build on the notion that you are what you think.
Turn your positive thoughts into words and eventually actions. This purifies your thoughts and resets the way you think. Go on a road trip. The open road can cure many wounds.
Grab some friends for a weekend getaway or a day trip adventure. Look back on your relationships and assess the damage. As much as it may hurt to reflect on the past, analyzing your relationships can help you in the future.
And after all, a relationship is two halves that make a whole. Be the better half and take care of yourself. Throughout her life, she has found excitement in the world around her. Kacey graduated with a degree in Communications while working for a lifestyle magazine.
She has been able to fully embrace herself with the knowledge of nature, the power of exploring other locations, cultures, and styles, while communicating these endeavors through her passion for writing and expression. Her love for the world around her is portrayed through her visually pleasing, culturally embracing and inspiring posts. Connect with Kacey on Twitter and Pinterest. Ready for conscious, like-minded individuals you really want to meet? Guest Contributor MeetMindful is the first online dating site to serve the mindful lifestyle.