Because these two hitmakers are pretty much made for each other. They both used to thrive on media attention Getty Images Before they got together, Katy Perry and John Mayer both desperately sought validation in the form of the media spotlight.
Perry admitted as much in a interview with Rolling Stone , when she, then engaged to Russell Brand, confessed, "Any artist who says they don't Google their name is a big fat liar. Perry's pattern continued during the earlier stages of her relationship with Mayer, most notably when she stepped out showing off bling on her ring finger of her left hand numerous times throughout the "on-again" stages of their romance. Mayer, meanwhile, gave his infamous interviews about exes Jennifer Aniston and Jessica "sexual napalm" Simpson, as well as about pornography and masturbation , ensuring he'd get himself headlines — even though those headlines ended up doing much more harm than good to his reputation.
It was a private relationship during and it's a private relationship, still. I can understand asking the question … I'm on the same journey as everyone else. Coupling is a tricky thing. I can understand asking the question [about the breakup with Perry] based on some previous answers I have given, but I have finally learned how to put the wall between one thing and the other. I've been much happier since then. I keep enough to myself. I'm going to go on dates and movies and dinners and when I do it's not because I'm trying to garner any kind of publicity, it's because it's something that is just an inevitable byproduct of this life.
It's never my main focus, it's never intentional. And a hike, we love to hike. I wanted everybody to like me. I thought I was one shuck and jive away in every direction … I was just a jerk.
The only way that I can be sure that I don't relapse is to admit that I constantly have this ego addiction — every day. The stage is set, but I'm excited for a meet cute at some point. I'm single and I'm excited about the future. Now I just feel this capacity to love and to be happier. I want the baby with the protective earphones [by the side of the stage]. I'm right on time for my career, and I'm running late for my life.
I had to learn about taking care of myself before I could take care of others," she said in a September interview. I want to take care of them. I want to save them, and I forget myself in the meantime. I learned that through therapy. I look for the same characteristics: A lot of times I've ended up with people who have been intimidated by me, unfortunately. They say they're not, but it comes out in the long run. They're threatened, or there's resentment because they don't know how to handle it.
At the time, a source told People , "They weren't serious, but she was really starting to fall for him. She wasn't seeing forever with him, but saw it lasting longer than it did … Katy likes the 'new' part of a relationship, when everything's exciting and you're getting to know the guy.
So she wanted to continue experiencing that with John. They may go out again, even, just as friends … They were honestly having fun. People made it out to be far more than it was. It was like a splash of cold water to search inward on what was going on with me … I still needed to deal with all of my ex-husband stuff.
It's almost like if I kept talking about it, it would seem like I actually cared about it. She is worried about getting older, which sounds ridiculous … But she does think about the long-term plans of marriage and babies. She told Billboard in September , "[Mayer] literally is a genius, as is evident from his songwriting. I always tell him, 'Darling, you know I'm going to have to give your mind to science after you've passed, because we're going to have to understand how all these sparks work.
Every night, he tries to finish it in under 10 minutes. When he puts his mind to something, he really gets it done very well. I always ask for his help. I went in the other room [of the studio and] called her phone. You hang on for dear life and sometimes you get a little buck here and there and sometimes you get things thrown at you but you get back on.
He's heard it over the process of me making it. I think his opinion is a priority for me, but also me being happy with it is probably a bit more of a priority. And also what the world thinks of it, and how boring would it be if I did censor myself and I wasn't able to write about real-life instances?
I mean, that's just not what songwriters do — real songwriters write about their lives. Some things float into my mind, and I process them, and [then] I make songs about them. And by the way, it's a testament to the fact that I have not dated a lot of people in the last five, six years. That was my only relationship. So it's like, give me this, people. It's not that they have to be famous, although there's a level of understanding when they're in the same business … They understand what it means when you're tired from a show or the tour's exhausting you or if an interview went wrong — they know all the ins and outs, so you can just walk into the house with a certain face and they understand, you know?
What I really like is someone that understands music, because I love music. So anybody that understands the power of music, I'm usually instantly attracted to.
Whispering is actually really bad. There's just a lot of silence in our house most of the time. You know, we have music as an understanding and love between each other, and we connect, and you know it's like he understands what I do because he does the same thing. And so after a long day, if it's been tough, I don't really have to go into it. He just gets it. You know, so it's nice with that understanding. When Swift wrote " Dear John " about her ill-fated fling with Mayer, he was hurt, telling Rolling Stone , "It made me feel terrible, because I didn't deserve it.
I'm pretty good at taking accountability now, and I never did anything to deserve that. It was a really lousy thing for her to do. I was really caught off-guard, and it really humiliated me at a time when I'd already been dressed down. I mean, how would you feel if, at the lowest you've ever been, someone kicked you even lower?