In order to save you from heart-break the tone of this article is rather aggressive. Relationships like these rarely last long, and are usually short lived.
How on Earth could you possibly think a relationship can grow, let along stay stable if both parties are not able to communicate? Well where do you find English-speaking Japanese?
So, find yourself a nice big city. The staff at airports typically speak English, and are often rather pretty, bonus! English teachers at schools. Embassies With the above list in mind it may appear daunting to find your English-speaking Japanese partner, however you should turn your frown upside down, because since the advent of the Internet you can search out actual groups in cities again, it must be a large city that exist solely for the purpose of meeting foreigners.
Pat yourself on the back for killing two birds with one stone. Dating the Japanese So by this time you have found yourself a Japanese which you like and he or she seems to like you. So what do you do now? First, it is important to identify your goals and the goals of your partner. Do you want a one night stand or something more meaningful. It is important to establish this early on. Aside from the man-whores and sluts, the Japanese take sex and relationships very seriously so if you want to have a successful long term relationship with a Japanese it is necessary that you follow some rules: Before you kiss or try anything physical you must communicate your feelings.
You would say something like: Get you and your partner tested. This if for your protection. While Japan only has around 10, people infected with HIV which is low , their lifestyle choices and behavior are rather reckless as the believe only foreigners have HIV, they themselves will not get tested and will not use condoms.
Therefore, be safe and get a free HIV test done at a clinic. If your partner Japanese male insists emphasis on insists on not using a condom, be warned that he is a player. Japanese girls are notoriously easy for various reasons including the cultural subservience to men , and if you put enough pressure on them they will give it up.
So show them some respect and wait until the moment is right for both of you. Depending on his Job, he will put it ahead of you and you will see very little of him. This is true of Japanese businessmen. It is no longer the end-all of your arsenal.
Splitting the bill on a date is perfectly acceptable in Japan. If your Japanese girl lets you sleep over at her house while you are still only friends she may be a whore. Japanese men are known to be controlling and like subservient women.
So be aware of this early on and know very your partners temperament well before you even think about getting married. They also have a terrible time admitting their feelings or communicating their emotions, as this is against their cultural mores. Japanese women are notorious for lying, concealing their real feelings and tolerating relationships which they are not happy to be in, which then leads to cheating this is also true of Japanese men.
This fear of speaking up is part of their cultural upbringing. You must go the extra length to find out how they really feel. This is something you should discuss before you tie the not, obviously. And the same goes for men, many women will expect that once they are married that they will just stay at home all day. However in this modern and evolving society, women are leaning more towards having careers than wanting to sit at home all day.
The average number of children per family is one in Japan. It is also not uncommon for Japanese to not even have children. Many want to focus on their work. It takes a very understanding, determined and giving person to be able to bridge the gap between these to very different societies; and indeed there is MUCH more to understand and learn that was listed in this article. Consider this text as a collection warnings, focusing on the difficulties of said relationships.