She was adopted by Ira and Rhoda Rhoda is also a matchmaker ,   and was raised in the Jewish faith. Prior to founding her business in January , she worked as the Director of Marketing for Great Expectations. Stanger was introduced to the fashion industry by Janis Spindel , who had hired and scouted the year-old when looking for an assistant. Stanger stars in and produces the show. Each episode features her matchmaking two millionaires.
First, millionaire clients submit a biographical video profile on a DVD describing the type of partner they want. Stanger then meets them individually to better understand their desires and welcome them to the club. She's been called "The Simon Cowell of Dating"  and makes very quick, very direct comments.
Her "casting calls" or "recruiting sessions", where she screens men and women, involves her making brutal comments on their dress and appearance. The millionaires and 30—40 potential dates first meet at a cocktail party Stanger hosts called a "VIP mixer", where they mingle and the millionaires get to evaluate the candidates.
The millionaires choose their top two candidates and have minute "mini dates", after which they pick the candidate they like best. Stanger announces the choices to the group, and then the millionaires set up their "master dates". The Millionaire's Club has a few rules. For example, millionaires cannot discuss sex or trade phone numbers at the mixer. No sex is allowed until the couple is in an "exclusive, committed, monogamous relationship". There is also a two-drink maximum enforced on each date.
If a millionaire violates the terms of the club, then Patti can throw him or her out of the club. At the end of each episode, Stanger calls each candidate chosen for their master date, after which Patti calls each millionaire or invites him or her into her office to discuss how the date went. The show concludes with updates on each couple, indicating whether they are still together or not.
The show's eighth season premiered on December 7, [ citation needed ] and recently[ when? After a month's hiatus, the program was returned to the schedule on a semi-regular basis, until it was moved to Thursday evenings in July and made a permanent fixture.
Personal life[ edit ] In , Stanger started dating Andy Friedman, a real-estate executive whom she met through another matchmaker.
They did not agree on a date for the wedding, although episodes of season three of The Millionaire Matchmaker showed Stanger engaged in wedding planning activities, and she spoke openly to the media about details of the wedding. It hit me really hard that I want kids in my life. You have to agree on the non-negotiables. After she was matched on her own show, Patti started seeing John Matthews, the man she picked.
Stanger's first book on dating was published in It is entitled Become Your Own Matchmaker: She wore a Marc Bouwer dress.
They exchanged promise rings , but their relationship has since ended. When responding to a question from a gay man about a long-distance open relationship, she said, "There is no curbing you people". She later told a viewer who Skyped in, "You are very handsome, I thought you were straight. Stanger also made comments about Jewish men and smart women that viewers and critics deemed offensive.
Bravo and Stanger issued apologies with Stanger tweeting, "I am so sorry. I did not mean to offend anyone with my comments last night on Watch What Happens Live.