Mar 21, 5: Affairs is our weekly column about the current dating scene in and around Los Angeles -- and finding romance in a wired world. If you've got a story to tell, we want to hear it. I signed up on the dating site Plenty of Fish last year, and while I had my doubts, I was still optimistic about finding my soul mate — otherwise, why do it at all? Just because I'm on the slippery side of 45 doesn't mean it's all over for me.
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I'd been through the wringer these past six years, first with an on-again, off-again long-distance relationship with an old flame I'd reconnected with through Facebook. After that, there were others I'd met in real life — a widower, a couple of recently divorced men.
Each of them started out optimistically but fizzled when it became apparent that they wanted something different, i. Then my year-old niece told me about a dating site called Plenty of Fish that "everyone" was on. We joked about going on double dates with uncle-nephew pairs, and I said jokingly, "Yes, and I'll end up with the nephew and you with the uncle! A few weeks later, I signed up.
I casually checked the site for several months, replying to some, ignoring others and trying not to be devastated by unanswered messages. Then I spotted him: Are you a veteran of the L. Share your story "Hi, I'm actually I have two other women I'm writing to right now and I'm not sure I can handle a third?
But something made me write back. What's up with that? I played very hard to get because I am , but he ignored it. I was in my pajamas, so I didn't reply. I didn't answer the question. But he wasn't done. Here's my number," he finally wrote. Not many serial killers from New Hampshire, I reasoned.
The next day, Saturday, my curiosity got the better of me and I texted him. Affairs columns, and submission guidelines "Meet me at Sapporo Sushi. Then I started to panic. But when the time came, I made myself go. He looked all of We ate sushi and drank lots of sake, and he started to look more his age.
He paid for dinner and I was happy — three bottles of sake happy. So, what Cracker Jack prize did I get, you might wonder? A Gen-X, computer-whiz engineer working ridiculously long hours in the aerospace industry. I've entered "The Big Bang" territory: I feel like Penny 20 years later Sure, I was originally hoping to find someone to grow old with, but, if the gods hand you a lemon, make lemon meringue.
It's taken me a while, but I realize now that this living fantasy is one of the perks of being a self-confident woman "of a certain age," and one should embrace it like the feminist superhero that you are.
There are no dirty socks to pick up after, but there is a downside. Could I bring him as a date to my niece's wedding? In the movie "White Palace," a young James Spader moves to New York in the finale to declare his love to the much older Susan Sarandon, but in real life, would James really have done that?
In Hollywood, one can dream, but in America, the jury's still out. Times Festival of Books on April Affairs chronicles dating in and around Los Angeles. If you have comments or a true story to tell, write us at home latimes.