So when something like that pops up on an Ask Reddit thread, where users are sometimes embarrassingly honest, I like to share it with those of you who are looking for it. In this particular thread , guys and girls were asked for the harsh truths they think members of the opposite sex need to hear.
It can take a bit of a slap in the face from someone else to really get us back to where we want to be. Here are 12 harsh truths guys think all girls need to hear: Just cause you make him hard doesn't mean you're all that special. A guy can get hard from, as I've heard someone on this site say, "a stiff breeze and eye contact. It's important to know there is a difference between a guy being horny, and a guy who actually likes you.
Women we can see the little mustache hairs you grow above your upper lip. Not all guys are the same. You just keep chasing the same guys. I've said this before too. It's easy to blame an entire gender when dating isn't going on our way. But it's not fair to say "All guys suck" just because a few guys didn't treat you right. Also, if you notice that you're getting hurt over and over and over again, maybe you're doing the wrong thing.
You don't want to come to the golf course with me and my friends. You will not have fun, and it's likened to me going shopping with you and your girlfriends.
This dude got some flack for this comment some users said it was sexist and I get that. BUT I also get what he was trying to say. You don't always need to tag along with him and his friends. Sometimes you need to let them do their thing - and you need to do yours too. There's a difference between doing things together and forcing each other to tag along.
Uh, okay, this doesn't really make sense. It would make sense if it was this: If you're allowed to have preferences over things he has no control over, then he can too.
Do not wait until I am in bed and ready for sleep before starting an emotionally intense conversation. It will not go well. This applies to both. Neither side has a monopoly on this. I suppose it should be a harsh truth for your partner.
But it's a harsh truth because it's such a bad thing to do- the person trying to sleep will usually say something nasty and mean because they're not really awake, and because they're being trapped and pounced on when they're the most vulnerable.
Seriously, people, don't do this. It's destructive to your relationship and to you. I have to agree with this. The stupidest, longest, and more pointless fights my boyfriend and I have been in usually occurred when one of us said something while the other one was trying to sleep. If you're constantly going to play hard-to-get, we're eventually going to give up. I say this all the time.
If you spend TOO much time acting like you don't care, they will end up thinking you don't care. We can see that it's not "fine". You obviously want us to listen or do something, so just fell us what's going on.
Just be honest, okay? We aren't great at picking up subtle cues. We probably aren't going to go stand by a lake and look out while we build up the courage to race to the airport and stop your flight, or object to your wedding and take you away to a power ballad. We get drunk and bitch to our friends and play video games.
We miss you, but this isn't the Notebook or a rom-com. And always important to hear and remember. I can handle you at your worst, but that's not the point. You having a bad day isn't an excuse to take it out on me. Grow the hell up. Guys on Reddit seem to hate the phrase, "If you can't handle me at my worst, you don't deserve me at my best. Hey ladies, if you want more attention from me "making me jealous" won't work. I will just dump you because I see you as disloyal now. Yeah, I don't know why people do this.
I can't fix your insecurities. Only you can do that. This is an important note for anyone. You should never depend on your significant other to fix what you feel insecure about. They might help, but they won't fix it. And if things end, you'll go back to those insecurities. What do you disagree with? What did we forget to include? Tell us in the comments. You can follow the author, Jessica Booth , on Twitter or Instagram.