The serial single girl. Share I have talked a lot about internet dating. Plus let's face it, no matter how experienced you are, a person can always use a few more tips right? Samantha Karlin is the Dating Diva for an online network called Meezoog.
Here she gives advice to online daters and fellow singles. She has offered to do a few guest posts to offer her expertise with online dating. This week, she's offering tips on how to write a snazzy online profile.
If you haven't heard of Meezoog you should definitely check out their website. There is also some additional information with Samantha's post. The ABC's of a good online dating profile By: That goes for the real world as well as online. I cannot emphasize how important a carefully put together online dating profile is, whether you are on a more traditional site like match or a new cutting edge one like Meezoog. No one will ever find out how fabulous you are in person unless you actually meet, and for this to happen, you need a stellar profile: You see, while in the 'real world' first impressions are three-dimensional, or even four dimensional due to the environmental aspect online they are two dimensional- picture, profile.
What you need to do is to create a third dimension by putting together a dynamic profile, one that illuminates who you are in a fun and unconventional way. Follow the tips below, and you will be on your way to an irresistible profile way before Valentine's Day hits.
Which means that maybe come the big day, you'll actually have a date besides Ben and Jerry Women fall in love with what they hear. As Cyrano so powerfully illustrated, women are seduced by words- eloquent, thoughtful, well-strung together words. Roxane fell in love with Cyrano because of the beauty of the things he said to her. That's just how we women are- perhaps it is why we talk so much more than men. And notice what bowled Cyrano over: Sorry ladies, sad, but true.
Men find their inspiration in beauty, while women find it in words and feelings. So what does this mean when it comes to your profile? Well, for women, your pictures are most important, and for men, it's your written profile. Now that doesn't mean that women should completely dismiss their "About mes" and that men should content themselves with a picture taken by the webcam on their computer you know the one I'm talking about, where you see the guy's arm reaching out to position the webcam in the photo and he looks slightly like Poltergeist due to the terrible lighting and camera angle.
But what it does mean is that women need to prioritize their photos while men need to prioritize their written portion. Don't tell your life story. You need to leave a little mystery so that someone will feel like there are still things to get to know about you even after they read your profile. If you dish out your entire life history on page one, then what's left for them to discover? So seriously, stay far far away from any sort of life story. Read below for further comprehension.
I went to Hofstra, where I majored in political science. I am looking for a girl who likes to go out but is also ok staying in and watching a movie on a Saturday night And I was a poly sci major! But this guy sounds like a total dud, poly sci or no poly sci.
And the sad thing is that Hofstra David might actually be awesome- but no one will ever know. David also makes it sound like having the name David and being a Long Island native I wonder if he's a Jew too?
This "about me" screams boring. Remember, it's not where we went to school and where we are from that truly define who we are, it's our quirks, the things we do differently from everyone else. Here is an example of a more dynamic and interesting "About me. This continued through college until someone finally told me that I wasn't African-American, but that Short Hills, NJ wasn't even in the same state as Philadelphia west or east for that matter.
I also laugh out loud, which makes me feel good- I will now associate this person with feeling good. It also leaves the reader asking questions: Did he really do that? Who was the one who finally informed him of his apparent discrepancy from Will Smith? Did his life really change or is he just being sardonic?
Maybe I'll shoot him a message Questions are a form of curiosity, and curiosity leads to, you guessed it, messages in your inbox. Cliches are the poison of dating profiles. Avoid them at all costs! Did he really just say that? You might as well take out that sentence and say instead, "Hi, I lack imagination. I also put no time whatsoever into writing this profile. Oh, did I mention Cleo is my only friend? For the love of G-d, try to utilize good grammar and spelling.
There is nothing worse than a profile that reads, "I loe to red, skiii, and do the Times croword in Sunday morning. For some reason I think it takes him or her a while to do that crossword. Bad spelling and grammar indicate that you are careless, stupid, or both.
And using bad grammar can completely change the meaning of a sentence: For example, there is a marked difference between 'your' and 'you're'. While 'your' is an indication of possession, you're literally means 'you are. Oh, and leave the slang on the streets. Moral of our story here today Creating a good online dating profile is not easy- it takes careful thought and creativity. If you don't have the time to write a good profile, or writing isn't your strong point- and likewise for "but I don't have any good pictures of me,"-seek assistance from an online profile expert like moi, who will help you to get across who you are in the most enticing way possible.
Putting up bad photos or a messy written portion isn't only a waste of your time, it can lead to negative perceptions of you. So if you actually want some lovin' around Valentine's Day, put some effort into it. Your inner self will thank you. Online dating network that guarantees 'social trust' Meezoog. Modeled after a person's real-life social circle, Meezoog allows family and friends to act as matchmakers. The site addresses the issues of Internet scamming and fake profiles with "social trust," built on the company's patent pending technology.