Originally Posted by mesmerized I see bitches in relationships all the time People in this thread talk as if you have to be a good person to find a relationship, nope. The biggest bitch I know has never been single. And I know great girls who have been single forever. I agree with the bolded and that's a good point. Being single for however long a period isn't a "giveaway" as to how the person is.
Originally Posted by Woggle Yes bad women get in relationships all the time but they attract doormats. They don't get the quality men. Doormats yes, but even doormat men can be quality men. I have a friend that I have been friends with since high school. The problem with him is that he has no backbone, but I don't think no backbone equates to poor quality of a man.
Also, a man with no backbone isn't necessarily a horrible thing if he has a great, smart and strong woman next to him. Originally Posted by RedRobin I wanted to 'like' the first paragraph, but I take issue with the second. While one is 'having sex' with Mr. Right Now, you are not available for Mr. Plus it opens you up to not nice people. Like Starla in the other thread. This is the biggest reason I don't do FWB or flings.
Not to mention, that I don't want the kind of guy who 'bins' people either. I can deal with being frustrated There is only men that you like, and those you don't. This whole "the one for you" is such a load of hollywood and new age crap.
There are plenty of people we are capable of dating or settling down with, not just one. So no, by dating other guys she isn't missing out on anything, she is simply dealing with one man until she realizes whether he will be worth it or not. Although this thread does make me think of something else. It's not that she has unrealistic standards, but she refuses to "allow" any mess ups. If she meets a man that fits what she is looking for rare if he so much as shows as being human get's angry and says something stupid or accidentally spills his drink on himself she doesn't have the ability to laugh at is or see past it.
Little things like this make him undesirable because "he shouldn't get upset enough to say something stupid" or "he should care more about keeping his clothes clean".