So, you've been dating your girl for a little while and you start to think that maybe you've won her over, you may have even charmed a few of her friends and made a good impression at her office holiday party. But don't think you're out of the woods just yet.
Be careful not to get too comfortable just because you've made headway with her social circle, there's a much more important clique to crack: Your first foray into family life will most likely be a meeting with her siblings rather than her parents.
Whatever you do, don't discount the sibling opinion in the dating world. While mom and dad are important to win over, siblings are often close in age and in personality and can be tougher to fool. Impressing them is not only difficult, it's important: Her brothers and sisters are likely to play a role in any eventual parental-approval process, either talking you up or talking you down as they see fit. The basics apply when you meet anyone you're trying to impress, so it's best to do some research before diving in.
Ask your girlfriend for details on basic family dynamics, their sense of humor, their professions and hobbies. Because your lack of familiarity with marine biology or professional bowling is understandable, do a little research if things are foreign to you. Not only will it impress your girlfriend that you've taken such an interest, it will also make your initial conversation flow more smoothly if you don't have to ask dumb questions about her sister's job or brother's hobby.
Your action plan for that first meeting still needs to be fine-tuned depending on whether you're meeting her brother or her sister — each has a different set of things that are going to impress or annoy them. Read on for a few tips on how to ace that first meet and greet. The key is to combine that winning charm with your best job interview manner to ensure you don't flirt and come off looking like you're hitting on your girlfriend's sister.
Keep your comments and conversation light, yet flattering. Obviously, you won't be able to steer clear of first-date type topics like her job or last vacation, but you do have to avoid typical date-like answers.
Put away your carefully practiced answers and try to act like you're talking to someone from the office instead. Remember, you aren't trying to impress her as a woman, you just want to impress her as a person. Keep asking questions and make sure you involve both your girlfriend and her sister at all times to avoid any possibility of flirting accusations.
Dig a little One of the best things about meeting her family — really, one of the only good things — is the opportunity to dig for dirt on your girl. Sisters have all the gossip on formative years and possibly current states of mind too. Ease into asking questions about your girlfriend and what she was like growing up, and let sis direct the type of stories that are appropriate to be shared. She'll be impressed that you want to know more about their collective childhood and she'll relax telling familiar stories.
Make sure you dress well and get ready to divulge secrets when meeting her siblings