While many people say they think about sex several times a day, 61 per cent are too exhausted to perform when we get home from work. This is despite more than 20 per cent of those polled saying they thought about sex more than 10 times a day. Indeed, the survey of 2, UK adults, commissioned by the manufacturer of natural libido-booster Vitano Rhodiola, also found that two-thirds of people have suffered from stress or anxiety as a result of work — with men more at risk than women.
And one in five people surveyed revealed that financial worries had a direct impact on the amount of sex they were having. It's a problem that can impact our relationships and overall happiness, he said. High levels of cortisol Your body's natural hormonal response to stress is to produce cortisol, known as 'the stress hormone'. This prepares it for a 'fight-or-flight' response by supplying an immediate energy source to large muscle groups. But this can be a turn-off as far as sex is concerned.
And a high-pressured job can expose us to stress on a daily basis, which can mean elevated levels of cortisol are produced for a long period of time. Sometimes this leads to a reduction in our sex hormones, which in turn can reduce libido. Exhaustion Some 61 per cent of people surveyed stated exhaustion was the most common reason for skipping sex. You're out of sync sexually with your partner If you work different hours to your partner you may find that you are out of sync when it comes to sex — more than half of those surveyed said they were not in the mood at the same time as their partner.
This can then have a knock-on impact on other parts of a relationship, causing even more stress. Indeed, 47 per cent of people surveyed admitted that a poor sex life resulted in increased stress and anxiety. Low self-esteem Job stress and self-esteem are also linked to a loss of libido, particularly in men. If a man's performance at work is challenged, he may feel as if he is under achieving and loses a sense of self-worth.
And it can become a vicious cycle — 17 per cent people polled admitting they had lost body confidence as a result of their partner not being interested in sex. Age Stress-related sexual dysfunction is often greater in people at the age in which their careers may be most demanding. In the survey, 70 per cent of 25 to year-olds said that stress has impacted on their sex life. Take a mini-break Getting away from the stresses of daily life can get you in the mood for sex Get away from the factors causing stress — even if it's just for an evening and within the UK.
Indeed, travelling far from home could add to your stress if you're already suffering. Taking a bath or shower together then massage and sex, then a home prepared candle-lit dinner can really make a difference.
Make time for a lunchtime stroll How you feel about your body affects how you feel about sex. An unhealthy diet and lack of exercise may cause you to have a poor self-image, so improving these is a good place to start.
Even taking a minute walk around the block at lunchtime increases your daily activity levels, which in turn can boost mood and self-esteem. Talk to each other If a deadline is looming, working late might be a must, but it's important to prevent resentment creeping in from your partner. Sending the occasional cheeky text message from work can often be all it takes to help maintain the sense of emotional closeness that is so important to sustaining a healthy sex life.
Ban the booze Alcohol is what's known as an 'anti-nutrient' as it can deplete the body of essential nutrients, especially those needed for energy production and stress reduction. Drinking too much alcohol can have on your sex-life, say experts stock image So over time, drinking can become a vicious cycle which will inevitably impact your sex drive.
Frequent alcohol consumption can also lead to lowered testosterone levels in men, and in turn lower libido. Go herbal Scientific research led by Dr Edwards, published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine and also the journal Phytotherapy Research, has shown that rhodiola rosea, a herb used for centuries to relieve stress and boost energy, can also help boost low sex drive in both men and women caused predominantly by stress.
Boost your sleep Prolonged nights of poor sleep leads to irritability and low mood — and tiredness will also suppress sex drive. If your sleep is poor quality, there's lots of truth in the old wives' tale of having a milky bedtime drink before you hit the pillow to encourage the release of melatonin, our sleep hormone. Combining that with half a banana, and you should find your sleep really improves.
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