But the reason why why couples stop having sex is actually an easy problem to solve. Allow me to explain My ex-boyfriend Mark and I started out like rabbits. We had sex every single day. He was just so damn good at being romantic The aggressive, sexual ass slaps. The random candle-lit dinners when I came home from work.
The dirty talk, flirting, and foreplay. They all created an insatiable appetite to have sex with the man. But after a couple months, things started to change Mark became lazy.
I would come home after working my ass off all day to a dirty house and more work to do. Take the dog out? Clean the nose hair trimmings off the bathroom sink btw ew? Sitting on the couch, watching football or playing video games.
It was absolutely annoying. But it got worse: I knew when Mark wanted to have sex, he would do one of two things: Option 2 - Roll over in bed, kiss me for ONE minute, then quickly undress me and slip it in.
I know, it almost rhymed but not quite You get the point. And to be honest, the person who was supposed to bring joy into my life was actually the person who was tiring me out the most -- Mark. What bothered me MOST was the fact that he stopped putting effort into the relationship altogether. I was doing all the work, and receiving no romance in return. So I did what I had to do: I broke up with him. There can be a lot of reasons two people lose the passion and stop having sex.
Depending on the kind of person you or your partner are, that work might be doing favors for one another. It might be physical touching. Dedicating time to each other. It might even be as simple as reaffirming them with your words. Personally, I value someone who does little favors for me the most. Coming home and finding out that my man picked up my dry cleaning or took my car in to get an oil is one of the sweetest, most romantic gestures he could do.
The more he does small things here and there for me, the more I want to jump on him the moment he comes in the door. But a little work can go a long way. K Rowling and Simple Pickup Contributor. Follow her adventures on her blog.