Very often they leave deep imprints of their knowledge, humanity and tolerance on the budding minds of the students. Sometimes such relationships can be renewed years later with a romantic angle. So whether you are seeing a former teacher or just want to know what it would be like to do so, here are a few things to keep in mind. Be aware of the law Like medicine, teaching is seen more of a vocation than a profession.
Hence it is guided by a code of ethics which may however vary from one society and country to another. In most developed societies including United States, there are not legal barriers on a person wishing to date a former teacher, provided both are above the age of majority and there is no longer any continuation of the teacher-student relationship between the two.
If you are above eighteen and have already graduated, dating a former teacher would not be something illegal. This is because most institutions have a very strict policy barring any romantic or sexual involvement between a teacher and a current student. And if you have graduated only recently, there may be doubts that you both already shared more than a professional relationship while still at school or at least harbored such intentions. Thus in order to save both yourselves from embarrassment and potential trouble, it is best to keep to a cooling-off period like for instance a year or so after you graduate.
See that you or your dependents have no link to the institution Dating a teacher is a big issue since romantic or sexual relationship between a teacher and student is a grave professional misconduct that can be punishable on several counts. For the same reason often many educational institutions forbid a romantic relationship between a teacher and an individual whose ward or dependent is a student there.
After all you are both consenting adults and you are no longer bound by the constraints of a teacher-student relationship. At the same time though you share an identical background in the nature of the same educationl institution where you once studied and where your partner probably still teaches.
Questions like how a particular student performed or what other teachers thought about some other student may put your partner in a difficult situation. A big age difference, possibly If you are dating a former teacher or thinking of something on those lines, ask yourself if you can handle a substantial age difference. This implies an age gap of at least seven or eight years or sometimes a couple of decades between you two — a considerable difference when it comes to being romantic partners. While a former teacher as a partner would bring stability and maturity in a relationship, also remember that after the novelty has worn off, you may crave the fashions and trends of your age group.
After a certain period, you may even be dismayed to find that your partner has aged much more than you have and that now you both have very little in common. Potential for distrust If you are going to have a relationship with your former teacher, make sure that there is no room for jealousy and suspicion.
Such thoughts could be extremely destructive to your relationship. This is not to imply that other professions do not have scope for infidelity but here, your being a former student gives the issue an added complexity. Finally a romantic relationship with a former teacher is open to the same kind of challenges and opportunities that exist in other kinds of relationships. It is up to you and your partner how you cope with the former and make full use of the latter to build a healthy, fulfilling relationship.