Email Authors Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider turned the dating world upside down with their bestseller "The Rules," telling women that they needed to play hard to get to reel in Mr. In their new book, "The Rules For Online Dating," they apply their relationship advice to cyberspace providing a list of do's and don'ts for successful computer romances. They visit The Early Show to talk about it.
The title of their book explains its whole premise: Capturing the Heart of Mr. How do I write an ad? Do I post a picture? Should I force the relationship from e-mail to phone?
How can I "disappear" in between dates? Should I be the first to initiate a correspondence? Is it OK to date a married man online? All rules are based on three premises: A man must initially feel a spark for a woman; the man must pursue the woman; and all men love a challenge. He knows you like him and the party is over. If he does end up dating you, you'll never know if he's dating you because it's easy and convenient for him or because he's really crazy about you.
Create a good screen name. Do not go to the other extreme either and attract a man who is just interested in sex. Strive for something in the middle.
BlondBeauty50 PetiteBrunette34 Less is more when writing your ad. After all you are very busy. And, do not answer questions that you would not answer on a first date.
Women who say they are looking for love or marriage or who are willing to relocate; women who post more than one ad on the same web site desperate ; women who post three or four photos in the same ad;eWomen who write long answers that have a Hallmark touch to them.
Post a smiling photo. Don't use anything too provocative. For the women who don't want someone to know about their new hobby: Wait 24 hours to respond. Don't answer on weekends or holidays Write light and breezy Emails.
If an email comes with no photo, respond "Would love to see a photo. If he refuses to send a picture, there is a reason. When he does send the picture, if you like it, answer with a: Don't tell him that you read his ad. Do not respond to anything that was in the ad, such as i. Never Email a man a second time if he neglected to respond to your Email. For the first three months, don't initiate an Email, only respond.
Wait for third one and only then write back. Block yourself from Instant Messages. Don't volunteer your phone number first. Wrong Don't waste your time on time-wasters Don't force the relationship from Email to phone Put safety first This is the fourth "Rules" book. Right" "The Rules II: