Dating a French man! The dream of every foreign woman, and a few gay men too… But how make this dream come true? Do you simply go to the country, you meet the man, and there you go? One big mistake a bunch of people make when dealing with love and relationships is to assume that: Everything in our lives is influenced by our cultures.
Knowing these local rules is of an utmost importance. It is the case with any rule, but even more so with dating, especially because too many people assume that dating is natural and not cultural. The rule number one in dating in France is that there are no rules! Actually, the very concept of dating is not very clearly defined in France. Remember that even if date meaning: Please note that in France, you rarely meet your future date in a bar or a club… Well, it can happen, but much less than in the US.
A big difference between both countries is the bar scene. Also note that blind dates are almost non-existent in France. But also note that all of those things have been changing a lot in recent years because of internet dating that has become extremely popular in France, and especially in Paris. One other thing one needs to know when asking a French woman out.
How is this relevant for a foreign woman dating a French man? Remember that dates are not as codified in France, which means that basically anything goes, and what will make it a good or a bad date is whether you had a good time or not, and not whether he or she said or did this or that.
None of these exist in France. And, usually and contrarily to the US, the more the guy calls, the better. In France, if a guy calls a girl a lot, it means he cares. I remember a few years ago, the last time I had a French female roommate. She started seeing this French guy. For her there was one possible explanation: Yep, this is how French women are, and as a consequence, this is how French men that have only dated French women will behave too. None of this is OK in France.
Well, kissing while completely wasted is somewhat OK, but will sometimes become very embarrassing the following day, depending on who kissed who. However, in a dating situation, kissing on the lips, and especially French kissing, means one and only thing: Kissing and dating other people is not OK anymore.
Sex with a French Man On the other hand, remember that French society and French people are not as messed up as Americans are when it comes to sex. Even if things are far from perfect, they have a much healthier and more casual approach to sex. Hence the importance of the timing of that kiss regarding to where you want to go and what you want to do with that person.
The main disadvantages are that things can be a bit too blurry at times, especially in the pre-dating phase. These kinds of misunderstandings never happened to me while in the US. However, concerning this last point, I wonder if this is really related to the differences in dating rules in both countries, or the differences in behavior in girls from both countries?
Well, I guess I covered the issue in the main lines. If you think you can bring your two cents to the discussion, the comments are here for that.
However, note that I strictly moderate them especially this post. In particular, if you have a question about this particular French man, please note that the comment section is not the place to ask.