Thirty, Flirty and Online Dating The misadventures of a fun thirtysomething in the world of dating. Monday, April 24, Mr. To cope with my frustration I worked out a bunch this weekend, but I am still pissed.
So I thought blogging about it would help me get my feelings off my chest. He was everything I have been looking for. In my vast experience of dating about years I can honestly say that I have never dated a guy as good and as kind as him.
He was kind, respectful, fun, a total gentleman, a planner woot woot!! The only bad thing I could find was that he is not a Harry Potter fan. Seriously though, I almost stopped dating him because of that. Besides my stubborn nephew who is only 10 and is missing out on life. So this is the story of the whirlwind adventure of me and Mr. Perfect 4 weeks ago today.
No commitment or pressure for a second date, the cost is low and you can easily escape if needed. No one wants to know within 10 mins that you would never date a person, but then have to sit through an entire dinner with them…this has happened a few times to me.
Lesson learned We got along really well. He asked a LOT of questions, which helped the conversation flow. He seemed like a put together guy, almost like a real life grownup with a real adult job, which I really liked.
What a cool date idea. You may be asking — Christi, how can it be weird and nice all at the same time? But let me explain further… I talked about this a bit in my last blog, but in this world of texting and social media and online dating, communication has become terrible and super annoying. I also feel like texting is creating bad habits of poor communication in a relationship.
Are you still there? I have a rule not to be on my phone when I am with other people. Nothing annoys me more than to be with a friend that seems to not want to be with you because they are on snapchat or taking selfies of themselves or texting someone else or looking around on Instagram. Come on people, have some respect for others and be with those you are with.
Put your phone away and live in the moment!! So we went out on our second date and it was awesome. Awesome enough that he wanted to see me the next day. For the first 2 weeks we saw each other 3 times a week. What made this guy awesome is that he always had really good, simple date ideas. For one date we made dinner together and then we read a book to each other. Another date we went on a hike and watched the sunset.
They usually kiss you on the first or second date and then all they ever want to do is watch Netflix for dates. Uh, guys, I know what that means. I know that when you want to watch Netflix or a movie that all you want to do is make out. I loved that I was going out with a guy who had great ideas of what we could do so that we could talk and get to know each other. I also felt really respected, which to be honest I have not felt in many, many years.
I only went on like 4 dates with that guy I do need to insert a little nugget of knowledge here for you, as this may pertain to the reason he dumped me. On our 3rd date he asked me what the hardest thing is that I have ever gone through, which for me is really easy to think of. So I will not be sharing it on this blog, but I will say with confidence that it is probably one of the hardest things that someone could go through in this life. Plus, he confided in me his hardest thing and that takes vulnerability and courage.
I have never climbed outside, so I was super nervous, but I had a blast and did really well. If I could give one word to describe me and Mr. Perfect together it would be fun. We had SO much fun together. There was always a lot of laughter and lots of talking. I really felt like he cared about me as a person. I started to get a bit nervous because he seemed to be getting busier. I would just take whatever he wanted to give me.
It was our 4th week, this last week, that was the weirdest when it came to his busy-ness and definitely made sense after the dumping. I answered all his questions with honestly, even though he may not have liked the answers. After that, he turned it around from being super serious to being the most fun I have had with him.
He took me to see a few waterfalls that are just a short jaunt from the canyon roads. The best part is that it was pouring rain.
He took a bunch of pictures of us, even ones of him kissing me on the cheek and neck. He even had a stranger take some pics of us and he again kissed me on the cheek in some of those pics.
After that we went back to my place and cuddled on the couch and just chatted for a bit. Guys, I am seriously funny So I agreed that Monday was fine. I mean, what can you do?
If he wants to see me, he would make time for me. The next day, after work, he was texting me just to banter a bit. I had teased him awhile back that he was not good at texting banter and he told me on Wednesday that he was working on it. On Friday I had taken the day off work to go on a bunch of hikes for my 52 hike challenge, so I texted him a few pics of me during work and he responded as normal. He then called me after work, which was a nice surprise.
We chatted a bit about our days and he told me that his trip was cancelled, so I thought he was calling to ask me out for the weekend. So he told me that the reason was two-fold. He had been dating a few other girls and wanted to narrow it down to one and 2. I honestly did not know what to say. So I told him that I disagreed with that last part.
I thought we were great together. Also, why would it not work out? I have so many questions that I want to ask him. I felt like he was all in one day and then all out the next. To that I say, grow up and get over it! My past choices have nothing to do with anyone but me and God.
So get to know the person standing in front of you, not the person they were yesterday. Or maybe he really did meet another girl and decided that he liked her better than me and it has nothing to do with the things I told him.
You either risk getting hurt or risk never falling in love. Lessons I have learned from dating Mr. No matter how a guy acts or treats you, you never know if he actually likes you or not. Even if all the signs say that he does, and maybe he really does, he can change his mind in the blink of an eye. I am worth more than a good make out session. There are a lot of free, simple things you can do on dates to spend time together and get to know each other, you just have to get creative.
Guys that just want to make out are lame and are just using you. If they liked you, they would spend more time getting to know you. I am awesome and deserve someone who knows that! Don't trust anyone that does not love Harry Potter!