Larger text size Very large text size To add more fuel to the anti fire, dating experts are calling it a bad year for dating trends. From ghosting to asking to split the cheque, was a year of dating don'ts.
Experts linked daters' general sense of feeling burned out from online dating to negative trends that appeared in the past year. With the beginning of January being the busiest time for online dating, we asked three experts to explain how these trends will translate into the dating culture of We know abstinence is the wrong approach for physical sex education. The same goes for digital interactions.
Having constant access to a pool of potential matches at their fingertips is making people more impatient, causing unrealistic expectations for first dates and a general decline in effort. Daters are "more quick to judge because they know that if you're not spectacular, they can go back to their inbox, and just swipe right again tomorrow," Jacoby says. McCann has seen an increase in ghosting, or cutting off communication and suddenly disappearing, among her clients' dates, citing it as a major reason some are losing faith in online dating.
Advertisement People are opting for hangs rather than dates In the millennial crowd, guys are shying away from the concept of dates altogether, opting to just hang out instead. Jacoby says that when she was online dating 10 years ago, it was standard to send two- to four-paragraph introductions. Now, it's a stretch to get people to write much beyond, "Hey, what's up? There are so many dating apps, the market is getting saturated and daters are feeling overwhelmed.
Daters are getting more specific. People are tired of going on dates before someone finally interests them. Newer apps recognise that people are looking for something to tell them whether they have a chance with someone before they invest time and effort, so online dating is trending toward niche apps. But she warns that selecting someone based on qualities isn't a guaranteed match.
Daters are tired of dead-end conversations. Spira says she believes that will see more of a push for people to meet in real life. She predicts a rise in apps like Whim, which skips the pre-date conversation and immediately matches people for meetups. McCann notes that many of her clients are preferring to meet the old-fashioned way, ditching apps in favour of connecting through friends, being set up or meeting people at social events like weddings and parties.
Apps are constantly being updated with new technology that allows you to communicate in different ways, including GIFs, which can help a person stand out. Loading Spira recommends standing out by using exclamations and addressing the person by name when you message them.