Google Pinterest Reddit We recently did a podcast interview with Catherine Behan , a 62 year old cougar who dished out her best secrets to meeting, seducing and dating older women. It was so awesome, that we decided to add her as one of our experts at MenProvement and she will be writing a series of articles on how you can meet, attract and date hot cougars. I never thought I would date younger men. I never imagined that hot young guys would think a woman my age is sexy. It had been a very long time since I had felt anything like this.
I let myself be flirted with and coasted along. He was on a project at my work so he would come and go with no set schedule. By this time we had several flirty encounters and I was definitely attracted to him.
He asked if I liked chocolate. Like I said, no one had touched me like that in many years. Slowly my defenses melted. When he got back I was in the back room stocking. The next thing I knew he was kissing the back of my neck. I was so ready and hungry for his touch at this point, there was absolutely no resistance.
Being at work, there was no way to act on the feelings so nothing happened physically between us for a long time. A few stolen kisses in secluded corners built up killer anticipation.
It was 3 weeks before we finally arranged to meet up alone in a place other than work. Was he trying to seduce me? He made it clear right from the start that he wanted me to feel good. You are a kind generous woman and you deserve to have something special. And I loved it. I was ready for someone exactly like him.
There is nothing like the time between the first glimpse of a crush and the first orgasmic date whether real time or cyber. Once sex happens for the first time, there is a different vibe between partners, whether true love is involved or not. That is fine and sex is still great but there is nothing like the pleasure of that first time with a new lover. We are nearly 10 months in and sex is still very fun and very good for me.
We have always been very clear with each other about not wanting anything more than great sex together. I am clear on the difference between a friend with benefits and a boyfriend. He wants a great sex buddy. For now, a match made in heaven. Why am I embracing my inner Cougar? Cher, Madonna and J-Lo. It is no wonder these stars crave their boy toys. Young men keep you young. It is like a hit from the fountain of youth every time. The sex is off the chart and a well-sexed woman is a force to be reckoned with.
I belong to a couple of the Cougar dating sites. And guys, here is the bad news, you have a lot of competition. Only 3 or 4 out of a hundred men even make the first cut with me.
That is why you can cruise over to a Cougar dating site like SeekingCougar. All you have to do is the opposite of what everyone else does and I will show you how. Some of the men may even be great partners but they will never know. What did my current lover do to break down my defenses and let him get close enough to run his fingers through my hair? Here is what turned me from a nervous Cougar-Wanna-Be completely unconvinced that he could really, really be attracted to my cute, adorable but older ass to a Cougar who knows her body, her sexual ability and enjoys herself thoroughly.
Beat the competition out there and find yourself a lovely lady to tease and please. Tease her and let her know you are interested but do not, I repeat, do NOT, use any sex talk or innuendo for the first several text messages. Read her profile and pick out specifics that you can text her about. Here are a few texts used by real guys to flirt with text: Is she a writer, like me?
I love when a man reads one of my articles and lets me know. A mention of an author I admire or a group I support…. Do this as soon as possible so you can see if there is any chemistry there.
Plan on 30 minutes or so. If it is a connect, ask her out again. Be bold and tell her you want to see her again. She will touch your arm, play with her hair and lean forward toward you. You give the greatest gift of all when you delay sex, even in cyber. There is a woman inside that body you are horny for. If you can make it a point to get to that woman inside you may just open a sexual dynamo. Make out with her. Kiss her and kiss her some more. Cougars are kiss deprived. Many Cougars are Truly Touch Starved Studies show that older women treasure cuddling, fondling and kissing more than intercourse especially in any cyber or texting relationship.
Many Cougars are truly touch starved. A warm strong non sexual hug is a rare thing. If a woman allows you to hold her like this, you are creating real magic. Well, yes, eventually, but you will thrill her if you stroke her with her clothes on. Rather than trying to reach in and take her clothes off or get your hands under to the skin beneath, touch her as if she was naked.
This kind of making out can happen in the back of a car or in a theater…. Divorce was not plan A. Breakups suck and relationships are a workout.
If single women want to avoid meeting Mr. Forever for awhile, can you, a ready, willing and able young guy, step in and be a friend with benefits without getting hurt?
Stay tuned for Part 2 of this series on Cougar Dating. She writes a column for YourTango. Catherine is also Editor in Chief at AngelsFantasyland.