Getting back together after a breakup is a common occurrence for couples, but it doesn't mean it's easy. It requires each person to examine the problems they've had and make them right. Make sure you do it for the right reasons. No relationship will ever be the same and that's OK.
No one wants to hear that it's over with someone they love. But sometimes it's really not the end. Getting together after a breakup is a very common thing: But even though it's done pretty frequently, rebuilding a relationship after a breakup is no easy feat. If you're thinking about getting back together with an ex, the first thing to decide is if you both really want it.
Best case scenario, you're both equally enthusiastic about reuniting — this won't work well if one person isn't convinced they want to try again. It's also imperative that both parties examine their reasons for wanting to get back together. And sometimes, that requires a little time to test your separation alone.
Advertisement If you're just feeling lonely or sad post-breakup, that's not a good enough reason to reunite. You need to both want to get back into the relationship because you love each other and are ready to move forward together.
If it's still something you're willing to try, you both need to identify what problems you had and vocalize them. By identifying past problems, that may also involve you admitting any of your own wrongdoings — and apologizing — instead of focusing on what your partner did wrong. Acknowledge your problems and work on them. If you lived together, maybe don't hand over the keys right away. Spend time with each other like you're dating from the beginning and take time to reconnect with one another, possibly with the help of a counselor.
This can be especially important if you're dealing with a particularly painful reason for your split, like an infidelity. Advertisement Getting back together is a lengthy process and a lot of people in your life will probably be tipped off to what you're doing. They may have their own reservations about it because they most likely were there for you when your relationship went south.
If they make good points, hear them out but ultimately this is your decision to make. If it does, incorporate it into your thinking. If it doesn't resonate with you, then chalk it up to them not having all of the information and that their opinion is simply that; an opinion. It's important not to make this a cyclical relationship, i.
Not only are cyclical relationships tough on you, they're tough on the people in your life who care about you. Studies suggest that these relationships can be more toxic and begin to wear down the bond between the couple.
Your relationship will never be the same after you breakup. But if you're doing it right, that's actually a good thing. It shouldn't be the same relationship. It should be a stronger, greater, more sincere love than the last time around.