Her Pleasure Drives your Passion Many relationships have a very straightforward and genitals-oriented perspective on sex, that it is an act that is simply done and then finished. You get your clothes on and go back to the rest of your day or night without much thought about what you have just done with your partner. Sex might seem rushed, predictable and even lackluster when your intimate life is void of a deeper intimacy that has less to do with what your genitals are doing and more to do with how your minds are connecting during moments of affection.
Instead, his craving for his partner can persist all day and night with just a few subtle cues and actions fueling the fire. This allows even the most meek of female partners to have authority in their sex lives without being dominating over their male lovers. Because he comes only when she okays the action while offering her oral pleasure or other forms of pleasurable intimacy such as a sexually-charged cuddle , most men who dive into Devotional Sex become enthusiastic givers of oral.
When he finally does ejaculate, the pleasure racing through his body is likely to be more intense and offer a deeper bonding experience with his partner. With a Devotional Sex lifestyle, everybody wins. However, the aim is the same across all couples who participate in this more conscious form of making love: They feel a deeper and more satisfactory connection to their partner. I have had the pleasure of interviewing the creator of DevotionalSex.
What is the difference between briefly practicing Devotional Sex versus living Devotional Sex as a lifestyle? If a couple just occasionally do a few days of Devotional Sex this tends to be high intensity fun. As Devotional Sex is practiced more often he learns to control his energy and he can last for many more days. The key to living Devotional Sex is for her to insert the quieter times into their Devotional Sex lives.
So he accepts that there can be a day or two when nothing much happens other than some cuddles. When he only ever ejaculates when with her and when she decides, most couples find that this creates a powerful bond between them which becomes an important part of their relationship. So short spells are high intensity fun, whilst living Devotional Sex creates a very sexy new normal which deepens the bond between couples. Have you heard of or spoken with men who reject Devotional Sex because of the fewer instances of ejaculation in their lives?
Is this practice sometimes more frustrating than beneficial? Like with any other technique — Tantric Sex, BDSM, Hand Free Orgasms, etc — the technique will only be of interests to those who think the benefits are promising enough to put in the effort to first learn more about it and then give it a go.
So Devotional Sex will always be a minority practice. How can they work around things such as hectic life schedules, children or other time-consuming life obligations?
Though Devotional Sex is best learned when a couple can devote some time to it, because what happens is only what she wishes, and she can end things when she wishes without having to make him ejaculate , it becomes very easy to fit some erotic activity and intimacy into a hectic or stressful time.
You can imagine what a difference this makes to the relationship! Have you any advice for individuals who want to bring up the subject of Devotional Sex with their partner? First read enough about Devotional Sex to be sure that you are willing to give it a try. You know them best, so what might they really like about giving it a go? Also think about what roadblocks your partner may have. Many find that what seems weird on paper very quickly starts to feel natural.
And though Devotional Sex will have many rewards for you, remember the aim of the first sessions is for your partner to enjoy the experience enough to be willing to try it again. A normal ejaculation and orgasm is a greater quick physical pleasure.
But think of how a man feels if he has built up his energy at the Plateau level and then he is denied ejaculation. All that energy is felt as powerful frustration! Exaltation takes the high energy of frustration and directs that into feeling intense intimacy and connection. This is very powerful for a man — both sexually and emotionally. And as his energy takes some time to fall the intensity of Exaltation then slowly falls to become relaxed intimacy and connection as the couple cuddle and she just gently holds his erection.
As he has not ejaculated he continues to carry, in a positive way, background erotic energy and this adds some zest to normal living and has him always keen for further sexual activity.
But, like with Hands Free Orgasms, many men have no interest in such advanced techniques — normal sex is fine for them. So what is best for any man is a personal choice.
Devotional Sex sounds like a great deal for long-time couples who are looking to spice things up in the passion department, but can it be applied to short-term flings or friends-with-benefits types of situations?
And as well as being used for flings or F-w-B it is amazing to use from the very start of Dating. For a woman wanting to use Devotional Sex for a fling it is too much to expect that her lucky man will agree to not ejaculate at the end.
This is great way for her to avoid unwanted porn-style sex and enables her to manage the encounter so that they both enjoy all that happens. This restriction opens up an amazing playground of adult erotic fun and intimacy where what happens can stay mild or be very sexual as she wishes. A man learning to orgasm without ejaculating is an optional extra to Devotional Sex. I write about using the Taoist Multi-Orgasmic Man technique because that was my journey.
But I know that there are couples practicing Devotional Sex who use the prostate stimulation method, and the other methods you present can also be used. As with your website, it is all about each man and couple discovering what works best for them.