Cancel 0 Nonexclusive relationships are becoming the normal thing to do for somethings. You can still date whoever you want and not get in trouble for it.
This is nice, especially if you are just coming out of a relationship that was super possessive points finger to self. If I want to go to the supermarket and read every label on every can of soup, I can do it. You can be honest. Telling the truth is not a crime anymore. It goes hand in hand with the soup labels. Just think about it. You better make damn sure this is the right person. Dating is essentially figuring out if that person is the one. I actually enjoy being alone. Not saying which, but one of those is true.
That decision is up to that person. Guilt only works for so long and then it wears out. My ideas are essentially the same with nonexclusive relationships. Although there is no formal agreement to be exclusive, how much you like that person decides your actions. We are only human. If we are nonexclusive and either one of us find out that someone else is in the picture, then more than likely some sharp words are going to be said.
It might even tip you over the breaking point and make you decide to be exclusive. You better lock that down then, son. From my experience, the threat of someone else coming into the picture is a quick way to decide how much you like this person. Now, if both of you are free-lovers and this is cool, then invite that person into your dating lives and live out in the mountains of Utah in a commune together.
The majority of people are unable to handle this. Although, I do know people who feel no type of jealousy towards this type of situation and they have both communicated with each other and been completely honest about their relationship. Sometimes feeling like you should lie.
You fear that if you are open, then you will lose this person. You better go off and have a blast! Drawing lines are hard and deciding what to reveal and what not to reveal is even harder. You still feel the threat of losing something. And in the end, you still feel like you could lose something. If you are too honest, you lose your relationship. If you are too shady, you lose your relationship. A nonexclusive relationship might be more stressful.
Life is so complicated sometimes. You pull out your hair, shaking your fists at the gods and beg them to give you all the magic secrets on how to make this shit work without any complications.
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