I was surprised at how badly dressed SO many people were! Because you only get one chance to make a first impression — that is why it is called a first impression! In , more than any other time, singles make snap decisions on shallow criteria. They are instantly judgmental. Whether you like it or not — this is a FACT and style matters the most when you first meet.
Men fall in love with their eyes; whereas women fall in love with their ears. You may say men can take you as you are, but I need to tell you that if you want to be successful in the dating world you will need to present the best version of yourself. So if you have scored a date or have decided to go to a singles event — you are excited but have one burning question!
That is — what should you wear? Just like any other occasion you have to start of thinking about where you are going. Is your date in the day or at night, are you doing something active or going to a posh restaurant and what is the weather like.
All of these things matter when choosing what to wear. Whatever the occasion present the best version of yourself. You want to look and feel great, be comfortable but dressed right for the occasion. How you present yourself will be the difference between getting a second date or not. Here are some simple tips: For any feminists out there I am not being sexist!
If it is a man you want to date this advice matters. It sounds simple but women generally dress to please other women. What men and women think looks good; is different. A good exercise to try is to ask a couple of your male friends for their honest opinion of how you look — it is an enlightening experience. This should include outfits and how you wear your hair. Show your waist, men love to see your shape.
Show some skin — choose legs or boobs! Men LOVE mystery and imaging what you will look like, so a hint is better than a plunging top or extremely short dress! Remember men have definite opinions in this area — whether you like it or not, it is a fact. But if you are a jeans girl, make sure you go for the fitted variety.
Most of all be feminine, men love a feminine woman. Men are more likely to be attracted to a woman wearing red. In one study men were shown a picture of the same woman wearing red and blue — men consistently chose the woman wearing red. Men will also spend more money on a date wearing red! So when in doubt try red! Have you ever noticed when you are out it is a sea of black — colour attracts attention.
Men love heels — no surprise there. It instantly makes women look great and elongates your legs. Be aware that men do notice things like expensive clothes and handbags — some men not all will think that women who value fashion items that are too expensive will be too expensive to date. Others will think that is my type of girl — at the end of the day you have to be you.
If you are grumpy or uptight, you could wear the best outfit and look amazing. But no-one is attracted to someone who looks grumpy or uptight. So it is important to smile! Make up is great but not too much! Research has found men are attracted to a women wearing natural make-up as opposed to glamour make up or no makeup.
In fact research from online dating sites found that women with natural makeup received 3 times more messages. Go to a department store and get a free fitting as your size will change over the years. Be aware of how you knickers look — the wrong pair will create bulges in the wrong places. Make an effort to look your best. Avoid wearing your hair up — men love hair and to see how it looks. Too often woman are so worried about looking like mutton dressed up as lamb that they go to the other and dress like a grandmother.
There are great, flattering clothes for all ages — find clothes that suit you. People can dress amazing at any size. Most of all be confident — wear something you feel amazing in. Creating a great impression is all about confidence — if you feel great in your outfit you will come across so much better. As always happy dating x Deb.