To date or not to date. This is the question that typically follows a stint on a reality-TV dating show. He gave Bachelor Pad a shot three years later. The summer after I came off the show, I almost had to stop going out. I have a lot of fun memories of girls going wild at bars. My friends always wanted me to go out because I was their wingman.
Not in a bad way, but just knowing that if I went up to somebody because I was interested, they might know who I am. It skews the lines between real life and La-La Land. You have to go back to, what are my values, and what type of person would I have gone for before? Robertson now lives in Santa Monica, California, and works as a real-estate agent. Dating after the show was really tricky. I had a hard time trusting people's intentions. I was on a date once, and this guy was like, "You have this huge following.
Can you post a picture of me and tag? That was so unattractive to me. I once got stuck on a dinner-and-a-movie date with a guy whose card was declined, and I ended up paying for the whole night. He wanted treats, too. At the movie, he asked, "Hey, can I get popcorn and Red Vines? I dated someone for a while who contacted me through social media. The girl he was seeing at the time made him watch the show. After they broke up, he reached out to me.
He was a great guy, actually. I don't trust men to begin with, so being on the show made my trust issues worse. I was the villain, and people always have a lot of questions. When I meet someone new that I'm excited about, the last thing I want to do is talk about my failed engagement. No one has looked for love on The Bachelor franchise more than Chris Bukowski. When you do go on that first date, they usually know about you already, so it defeats the purpose.
I went on one date, and this girl asked me how my mom and dad were and referred to them by their first names.
It was the creepiest thing I had ever heard. I've gotten to the point where dating has just been going on one date — there's never been one where I make it to a second date or think there is something there. Recently, I was out in Vegas, and my friend and I were talking to a few girls, having this great conversation.
But she found out from her friends, and it was game over for me. I guess I do it to myself because I keep going on the show. So I might have this problem for a while. What's so wrong with that? And as soon as I did, I met my current boyfriend. I tried to dress dopey so I wasn't pretty because I didn't want to date at work.
When the show came out, I finally told him. He actually was like, "Okay, this is before I met you. He was like, "You know, I really don't want to hear about it. I don't want all these guys looking at my girlfriend being naked. This is really weird. He felt really insecure about it. But now he's secure because I'm like, I live with you, I love you, I've been with you a long time.
Most of my relationships have never gone past two months because I figure out what their flaws are. We're both gamers, and that really ties us together. We spend time together playing video games, and he cooks. He handles some of the bills, I handle some of the bills. It's kind of perfect.