Scientists know that sex is a pleasurable experience for most women. But how and why does it feel so good to have sex? The four stages of the so-called sexual response cycle include: Excitement You or your partner may experience: Plateau You or your partner may experience: Orgasm You or your partner may experience: Men must wait after an orgasm to have another. This waiting period varies among men and increases with age. Resolution The body returns to normal function.
Swollen and erect body parts return to their usual size and color. Why sex feels good to your brain The brain is its own pleasure center during sex. Scientists know that certain parts of the brain are associated with pleasure, becoming more active after consuming food or drugs — or having sex. When we have sex, the physical signals felt by the body send signals through our nerves to the brain — which reacts by releasing chemicals that make us experience even more pleasure. Some research suggests the rhythmic nature of sex and sexual stimulation creates a physical-psychological loop of pleasure.
As physical pleasure increases during the orgasm phase of sex, so does psychological pleasure — and more psychological pleasure increases physical pleasure. The research also suggests that the rhythm of sex can help women and men choose appropriate sexual partners. A person will tend toward a sexual partner whose rhythm brings them the most pleasure because a good rhythm is a measure of sexual fitness.
How to have better sex The best way to have better sex is to learn to listen to your body and brain. Who and what brings you the most pleasure during sex? Choose sexual partners that make you feel happy and fulfilled. Feeling comfortable with someone can help you have good sex. Opt for sexual positions that bring you the most pleasure. Take time to explore your body on your own and know what sensations you most enjoy. Masturbating is a safe, healthy, and normal way to learn more about your sexual preferences.
Talk to your partner about what they like. Keep an open line of communication with your partner when it comes to talking about sex. Try things your partner likes and ask them to try things you like. Sex is more enjoyable when both parties involved are getting pleasure from the experience. Learn about what brings the other pleasure, together. Keep your sex safe The most pleasurable type of sex is safer sex. Good sexual health places a high priority on healthy relationships, planned pregnancies, and prevention of sexually transmitted infections.
Open communication about sexual health is just as important as — if not more important than — open communication about sexual pleasure.