Dating in China Dating in China is definitely much different than dating in the west. You may want to check it out here as he also gives his perspective on the dating culture here in China.
In the west we tend to hold a much more relaxed attitude towards dating and in the early days we may view the person that we are dating as someone we enjoy hanging out with. It is not unusual in China for Chinese people to begin discussing marriage after only a few months of dating.
This would scare the hell out of someone from the west and make them think that this person needs to calm down, but here in China it is common practice.
There is no real harm in this and the notion of dating for potential marriage material does hold a somewhat romantic notion of a person who is serious and wants to settle down. Also, with dating in China it becomes blatantly obvious the longer you stay out here that priorities are different. To begin with, what I have noticed out here and something that many Chinese friends have confirmed for me, is that marriage often seems to hold a different set of interests.
The first interest, and which is of vital importance, is how much money does the potential partner have. This will not necessarily be in relation to cold hard cash, but will be more in line with peoples assets i.
Do they own a house? Do they have a car? Do they have money in the bank? Are their parents well connected A high-level Government official or Police Chief etc.
I have actually met Chinese people who have openly told me that they do not love their partners but married them purely because they felt pressured into it: His family had money and he could offer financial security for their daughter so voila! If you notice I brought reference to the word daughter there and this is purely because it is generally the man who will have to provide the assets in order to find a potential wife.
I have met many couples out here in China who are deeply in love and have a wonderful relationship together. I have also met many couples out here who seem to have the relationship from hell and simply do not get on. People may think that tying the knot for financial interests is shallow and I suppose coming from a western perspective, it is. Chinese people do not have the reassurance and safety net of things like unemployment benefits, child maintenance benefits or the NHS like we do in the UK.
It is true that you see more Chinese women dating foreign men as opposed to the other way around, and I have wrote an article about what type of Chinese women are more prone to date a foreign man. What I also recently done was interview my Chinese friend River. River married a British girl last year and he gave his opinion on the differences he finds between Chinese and western women.
Obviously western women compared to eastern women on the whole tend to be more forthright and independent which is something River said may be off putting to many Chinese men who traditionally want a weaker and less independent woman. Proudly powered by Weebly.