If so, read on to sail smoother seas and avoid relationship shipwreck. But inter-generational relationships can be fraught with dangers, and most of these dangers come squarely down to one reason: The older man in a relationship with a younger woman often struggles to correctly identify what it is that has attracted her in the first place. Guys mature emotionally at a much slower rate than women and can easily get into their thirties with the emotional intelligence of a five-year-old.
They laugh at fart and tit jokes—enough said. Show her how even-headed you are and how readily able you are to talk about your feelings in a calm and responsive manner. Show her that your maturity ensures that a relationship with you is a true emotional partnership, not a one-way street to toy town! You have opinions that are considered and respected, and you have the confidence to deliver them; the younger man is limited to names and performances of his favorite sportsmen, while you can hold court upon any subject with ease.
This is a strength that the younger woman admires and aspires to. Want to impress her? No better place to start than with your voice and mind. Time takes care of that. Sharing these things with the younger woman you have your eye upon will fascinate her, scintillate her, and keep her coming back for more—especially when her male peers struggle to find anything to talk about beyond frat parties and MTV.
Sadly, this is something that younger guys are really bad at. They will prattle on about themselves incessantly, until the woman they admire is ready to jump out of the nearest window in a last-ditch effort to escape.
A conversation should be a two-way street with attempts to solicit information from the other person, and it should involve as much listening as talking—if not more. This is another strength of the older man. She will feel important and worthy of listening to, and will definitely be ready to take things a step further.
If he lasts more than the time it takes to cook an egg in his selfish efforts to reach a boiling point, then the woman can count herself lucky. The older male, however, knows exactly what his hands, fingers, lips, and tongue are for, and knows when to use them. Use your sexual sophistication to give her what easily may be her first true orgasm, and have her begging to come back for more. She may feel offended by your attempts to buy her, and you could end up pushing her away with no recourse.
Even worse, however, she may accept your cash-fueled advances—and is that really the kind of girl you want to be in a relationship with? Gold diggers do not make for a long and healthy relationship, and she may end up costing you a lot more than money. There may be a temptation for some older guys, with their wealth of experience and knowledge, to see themselves as superior to the girl they are trying to woo. They might not mean much to you, but they do to her. People are a jealous bunch of creatures.
There will be men and women both who take issue with your age gap and spread malicious rumors and gossip about you.
If you start listening to the rumors and let them put you off the relationship, shame on you. Please, please, please resist the urge to start adopting young fashions in an effort to fit in with her age group. Pathetic for you, and highly embarrassing for her. The trick is to aim for style over fashion. It suits your age, and whereas fashion is just for the season, style is eternal. Viagra and energy drinks consumed, you are determined to prove to her that age is no barrier to being an energetic love god.
When do age differences matter in relationships? Using these tips, make the most of who you are, and wow her with your superior skills of seduction. Liked what you just read?
David Cullen is frequently described as erudite, insightful and witty — but only by himself and only after several large glasses of Rioja